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The "person x in a relationship makes a decision
that defines person y in a relationsip without their input" trope ALWAYS pisses me off regardless of its justification or reasoning as a plotline. Idk how to describe this trope but here its like. Doyeon is deciding and summing up how she thinks Jinjoo has lived and is therefore deciding to act thinking that she knows whats best for her, without actually communicating this or letting Jinjoo decide for herself. I dont think shes necessarily wrong so I dont blame her, but its like. She could've said what she said to that guy, to Jinjoo. "I'm worried that a relationship with me will make you suffer. I have things I need to work out on my own (very depressed and barely scraping by) and so do you." Instead she chooses to be condescending and harsh. Telling the woman who thinks shes finally found solace of some kind, something to live for, that love is disappointing. In a way, she undermined Jinjoo's autonomy by thinking she can define Jinjoo, how their relationship always was, and how it will be and end on her own (obviously anyone can end a relationship for any reason at any time but I mean her justification for it).
Don't get me wrong at all, i think it makes SENSE that Doyeon did it this way. She is currently emotionally empty. Regardless of how she truly feels about Jinjoo, she is traumatized (from everything that happened and her childhood still) and (mentally) ill. I dont expect her to have a heart to heart conversation with Jinjoo about the past what. Year or whatever idk. She decided that shes not worthy of Jinjoo's affection, and that Jinjoo needs to experience independence, and her way of making Jinjoo see that was to, well, break her heart. Because it's easy. Because that'll make her give up on me. But it wasnt until reading this that I realized this is a trope that exists and im like, wow