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i dont have this issue with family members specifically but sometimes there will be a character in a smutty bl who has the same name as a character i like who i dont want to see/think about in smutty contexts/situations and this annoys me too lol

It definitely feels a bit odd lmao. I mostly read mangas, manhwas, etc., so I rarely see any of my family’s basic English names, but I’ve read a yaoi manga where one of the dudes had MY name (me, a girl w/ a feminine-ass name mind you) and it weirded me out . I feel like I would totally be taken aback if I came across a family member’s name, idk if I could read it

I had a similar problem with a Manhwa where the main character had my name. I tried so hard to read it but cringed every time I saw my name

I get that!!! It’s like I already associate this name with a character and a personality and now this other character has the same name?? And it’s smut?? Blasphemy!!

I can read it, but I feel weird about it, so I just call the characters by their initial like my younger sibling's name is common, but like the area where I live, I haven't heard or met anyone with the same name, but then it just had to come up in a manhwa, well glad they were sort of a side character, but omg, like every time I reread it I always forget about the name until the character is brought up

I’ve never really encountered this issue, and I wouldn’t stop me from reading, but I’ve encountered names of fictional characters on real people and I do find that a bit odd. Like I know these names are real name that real people are named, whenever I’ve encountered them I find it a bit weird (I’m referring mostly to foreign names that I wouldn’t encounter in my day to day in real life).

There's mnhwa out there where the ML share the same name as my biological brother.
It is kinda weird but all i do is change the name with something else, ykwim? I just treat the name like y/n..
For example, let's say ML name is jim, everytime i read his name, i just change it to Michael
So it doesn't bother me anymore, and i also do this everytime i found a character name that is too hard to pronounce ╮(￣▽￣)╭

i'm of the opinion that no kid should be befriending an adult and vice versa. i get that you have the common interest (i.e. roblox) but there is an inherent power imbalance between the two of you. it's YOU who should set and make those boundaries clear. you can start to distance yourself gradually and try to explain to encourage them to make friends with kids his age, not adults.

Yeah you’re right, the blame does inherently fall on me as I am the adult and I should know better. My only issue is how do I distance myself without hurting the kid?

At this age, kids are quite literally very dumb. The most you can do is warn them, since you both don't even know each other irl. Talk to them with no filter, and try telling them the possibilities of them over sharing and depending on you. The more straight forward you are, the better they'll understand. If they still don't listen, then try ghosting them for a bit or being dry.

could u like make an excuse that you're gonna get too busy w work or uni so u wont be able to come online at all. like I don't think u HAVE to just straight up tell them making an excuse could work too IMO

Certainly at this era, children are easily influenced by their surroundings especially in video games.. it'll be hard to explain to them about the dangers and possibilities that they might encounter in the internet bc they're too young and naive to understand.. the best thing you'll need to do is by influencing and teaching them what might happen if they depend on a random stranger they met on the internet..

I've experienced something similar to this situation a few times in Roblox too..I've simply just slowly explain to them about boundaries and teach them about how over sharing about their lives in ppl in the internet is dangerous.. sometimes this kind of method doesn't work, I'd simply tell them that I'm giving them an advice and if they can't listen to it then it's their choice bc I'm only doing that for their own good..

I’m a tad confused by what you mean by talking with little filter. I do get the straight forward thing as you are right, I probably have to be straight forward when it comes to something like this

I could, in fact I was just recently admitted into a graduate program which will eat up some of my time. I’m just terrified that if they get close to the wrong person, what if they become attached to someone who ends up hurting them or worst?

I think the smartest thing to do is to stop being friends. clearly there are some boundaries being crossed, and I don't want to repeat anything everyone else has already said so I reccomend saying your busy with work- or another way would be to straight up explain your side and how your friendship is inappropriate given the age gap. make sure they understand you don't necessarily hate them or anything (to prevent a bad outcome, you don't have to but I think it depends on their mental state) and end it there

Just my advice, it's ultimately up to you!!

And that terrifies me. Like sure my generation had technology but the accessibility now is more dangerous then ever. I guess I feel like have a sense of duty? Responsibility? As an adult to try and teach them internet safety. Because of that though this child is unhealthily dependent on my opinion on them. I’ve already told them countless of times about sharing personal information and getting close to people can be dangerous but I feel like I’m getting nowhere

I mean you don't need to be nice and sugar-coat things, just straight up tell them the problem or else they'll never truly understand their fault

True.. Mostly of the time, they're are kinda stubborn when it comes to getting advices from older people like us. As much as you want to not hurt their feelings you kinda need to be straightforward to them. Being nice isn't a choice but sometimes you'll need to be a bit stern if they won't accept it through the nicest way possible. Honestly at this point it's like we're gentle parenting them.. It may take time but they'll surely learn more about the dangers of the internet themselves or any other way..

you've given your time to give them advices so you did the best thing.. do tell them that you've tried giving them awareness and if they can't accept it then.. they'll probably learn about it in the future.. there might be certain events that y'now something would happen to them and at that point hopefully your advices would pop up on their mind and they'll realize it.. it's hard to think they'll mostly likely take it the hard way instead of taking advices.. that's how life is honestly. They'll need to learn it the hard way to realize all of the advices you've given to them were right all along.