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I've been dreading each chapter update mostly for the comments that will ensue and yet I end up scrolling down anyway...
A lot of you are scandalized for Inwoo's sake, and I get that, but I feel like a lot of you are that hurt and angry in his stead because you might be in his position too, lashing out at the possibility of someone making you face your demons rather than cheer you on while you run fast from them.
Also a lot of you forget Jiho isn't exactly a stable person either, and just because he finally faced his own demons doesn't mean he's now a healthy human being.
That being said, the reason Jiho was able to overcome his problems and mental issues (which aren't even fully solved imo) is because Inwoo pushed him and gave him that nudge. Not everyone needs support in the same way. Some may need it in delicate gentle forms, others need a harsher approach. Some may need it in form of words, others may need it in actions. Jiho had to face the possibility of losing what he loved for him ro decide facing the demons is way better than living all his life regretting not doing so.
Jiho has been supportive to Inwoo all along. He understood him, stood by him, and defended him to other people who did not understand his position and only seen things in pity of his ex, which was unfair. Y'all speak of Jiho like he's some loser who Inwoo somehow managed to let into his life like Inwoo is a poor judge of character or smth. It's like Inwoo is allowed to be unstable and gloomy and downright cause someone distress over seeing him deteriorate and be traumatized, but Jiho having cagey responses and fear of shame due to family trauma???? How DARE he. He is bad for Inwoo. Wow aren't y'all so righteous?
It's very distressing to see someone slowly die before your eyes and not be able to do anything. He can't even be depressed or affected by it otherwise he'll be repeating what his ex wife did and that won't solve anything. He's not given space to breakdown over watching Inwoo's spirit leave his body slowly. He tried being gentle, talking to him about it, slowly nudging him. It didn't work, obviously, so it reached a point where forcefully pushing him out of his comfort zone and putting him in front of the door to the room where his demons lay is the only way. He's not dictating what Inwoo should say to his mother or treat her as or forgive her, he just wants him to GO into the room and face her so he can break that cycle and have any development instead of wasting away.
It's uncomfortable, yes. It's cruel. It's betrayal. But one day Inwoo will realize that was the best thing someone has ever done to him, risking their relationship and risking being hated just to see the person they love be human again. Y'all keep hating on Jiho like he's so dumbass monster but Jiho knew he'll hate him for it yet still did it because in his mind there was no other way. And please don't pull the "take him to therapy" card. 1- you think inwoo wouldn't have reacted the same way had Jiho suggested that? 2- a therapist would've also recommend Inwoo meet up with his mother had he told them what Jiho is trying
If you don't have adequate empathy and legitimate professional takes on how to deal with a mentally ill partner and think the best thing to do is coddle them in their decline and deterioration and tell them you love them even if they become nothing but a walking corpse or they're still lovely to u even if they stay in bed all day refuse to eat or shower or see the sun, that you won't force them to get up when the nice way isn't working, then please for the love of god do not be with mentally ill people they deserve better than this. If coddling and cooing and "aww I understand you baby it's okay you're nice the way u are" is a cure I suppose therapists would've been out of jobs wouldn't they? Smfh