Something I’ve noticed a lot in the comments is the disconnect people have when it comes to Juheon’s actions and character, and the overprotection, so to speak, towards Dohu.
What I love most about this manga is how well-written the characters and their motivations feel, which isn’t always easy to achieve in BL, where the most “explosive” part of a story is often the gogogogo (and not that I don’t enjoy that too I’m a bit of a perv myself but a good plot is something we almost always lack).
Now, back to my point: Dohu is a great representation of someone on the spectrum. I think we’ve all realized that Dohu is autistic, and the way he feels emotions and acts are deeply connected. This doesn’t excuse his actions, because YES, Dohu did act wrongly by hiding his true motives. And while it’s clear he didn’t intend to start or even have a relationship with Juheon, it was something that we saw unfold and become a reality. That should’ve been the moment when Dohu was honest with him. Plus, in S2, his sister/friend (can recall) told him to be honest and explain his first motives to Juheon..
A lot of people have misunderstood something: what hurt Juheon the most wasn’t the fact that Dohu used him—it was the way he found out. And for someone carrying the kind of trauma Juheon has, that was catastrophic. For someone who’s been through a traumatic experience, because let’s remember, Juheon doesn’t show who he really is, breaking down all the walls he had built was the core of Season 1. It helped us understand that Juheon is someone deeply sensitive when it comes to betrayal, and that’s exactly how he felt at the end of Season 2. And it was one of the worst kinds of betrayal, because it came from the person he loved and trusted the most.
The fact that he opened up and created such an intimate space, only to later discover that this person was using him for their own convenience (as he felt in that moment I’m not saying Dohu didn’t or doesn’t have feelings for him, my poor boy has been through hell), was like crashing into the same wall and having it collapse on top of you.
So I completely understand Juheon’s behavior up to this point, acting like he doesn’t know Dohu at work. Plus, given the nature of his job, it’s not in his best interest to stir up “drama” or misunderstandings. That could seriously affect him professionally.
Honestly, I just want them to talk and reconcile. They’re killing me. And sorry for the long comment
I totally see where you're coming from, even I understand Juheon's feeling and drive behind his actions, it still doesn't excuse how he dealt/is dealing with Dohu. If we flipped the coin, Dohu has always struggled with understanding emotions, and so he tried to convey this struggle to Juheon, to which he always brush away or didn't take into much consideration. If you noticed, Juheon can see Dohu's feelings written on his forehead cause Dohu loves him A LOT, so Juheon actually doesn't see in which way Dohu isn't able to procces emotions normally, thus his hurt is more in this case. Cause like you said, it's not about the initial motive, it's about not coming clean. But I'm on my opinion that Juheon should've handled things differently instead of disappearing (Ik the reason behind his disappearance but I hope you got what I'm trying to day.) At the end of the day, all they needed was communication, it is so sad to see them like this.
I totally see where you're coming from, even I understand Juheon's feeling and drive behind his actions, it still doesn't excuse how he dealt/is dealing with Dohu. If we flipped the coin, Dohu has always strug... Hanabi
I get you, and what you’re saying makes a lot of sense. The only part I see differently is that Juheon doesn’t disregard Duho’s feelings, he actually understands his limitations. That’s why in the last episode, he made that sarcastic comment about Duho’s ability to grasp emotions and his job position at the time.
I do think Juheon is the kind of person who pays more attention to actions than emotions. That’s probably why he fell for Duho and misread him at first, he thought Duho was in love with him, when in reality, Duho just wanted to write his story ╮(￣▽￣)╭
We’ll have to see what they reveal about his disappearance, but I’m sure it’s deeply tied to his family, especially his grandfather. They’ve already shown that Juheon is a “project” for his aunt and a tool for his grandfather.
I get you, and what you’re saying makes a lot of sense. The only part I see differently is that Juheon doesn’t disregard Duho’s feelings, he actually understands his limitations. That’s why in the last ... Sydus
Exactly, Juheon is well aware of Dohu's emotions based on how he acted with him. But I still can't understand why he chose that route for their relationship.. He could've confronted Dohu and understood everything, then act accordingly. I'm never gonna excuse what Dohu did, but he should've at least paid the price for what he did upfront. They're not just two random people that bumped into each other, they were two people who are deeply in love. Or maybe only us can see this big picture and that's why I'm so upset.
Something I’ve noticed a lot in the comments is the disconnect people have when it comes to Juheon’s actions and character, and the overprotection, so to speak, towards Dohu.
What I love most about this manga is how well-written the characters and their motivations feel, which isn’t always easy to achieve in BL, where the most “explosive” part of a story is often the gogogogo (and not that I don’t enjoy that too I’m a bit of a perv myself but a good plot is something we almost always lack).
Now, back to my point: Dohu is a great representation of someone on the spectrum. I think we’ve all realized that Dohu is autistic, and the way he feels emotions and acts are deeply connected. This doesn’t excuse his actions, because YES, Dohu did act wrongly by hiding his true motives. And while it’s clear he didn’t intend to start or even have a relationship with Juheon, it was something that we saw unfold and become a reality. That should’ve been the moment when Dohu was honest with him. Plus, in S2, his sister/friend (can recall) told him to be honest and explain his first motives to Juheon..
A lot of people have misunderstood something: what hurt Juheon the most wasn’t the fact that Dohu used him—it was the way he found out. And for someone carrying the kind of trauma Juheon has, that was catastrophic.
For someone who’s been through a traumatic experience, because let’s remember, Juheon doesn’t show who he really is, breaking down all the walls he had built was the core of Season 1. It helped us understand that Juheon is someone deeply sensitive when it comes to betrayal, and that’s exactly how he felt at the end of Season 2. And it was one of the worst kinds of betrayal, because it came from the person he loved and trusted the most.
The fact that he opened up and created such an intimate space, only to later discover that this person was using him for their own convenience (as he felt in that moment I’m not saying Dohu didn’t or doesn’t have feelings for him, my poor boy has been through hell), was like crashing into the same wall and having it collapse on top of you.
So I completely understand Juheon’s behavior up to this point, acting like he doesn’t know Dohu at work. Plus, given the nature of his job, it’s not in his best interest to stir up “drama” or misunderstandings. That could seriously affect him professionally.
Honestly, I just want them to talk and reconcile. They’re killing me. And sorry for the long comment
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I totally see where you're coming from, even I understand Juheon's feeling and drive behind his actions, it still doesn't excuse how he dealt/is dealing with Dohu. If we flipped the coin, Dohu has always struggled with understanding emotions, and so he tried to convey this struggle to Juheon, to which he always brush away or didn't take into much consideration. If you noticed, Juheon can see Dohu's feelings written on his forehead cause Dohu loves him A LOT, so Juheon actually doesn't see in which way Dohu isn't able to procces emotions normally, thus his hurt is more in this case. Cause like you said, it's not about the initial motive, it's about not coming clean. But I'm on my opinion that Juheon should've handled things differently instead of disappearing (Ik the reason behind his disappearance but I hope you got what I'm trying to day.) At the end of the day, all they needed was communication, it is so sad to see them like this.
I get you, and what you’re saying makes a lot of sense. The only part I see differently is that Juheon doesn’t disregard Duho’s feelings, he actually understands his limitations. That’s why in the last episode, he made that sarcastic comment about Duho’s ability to grasp emotions and his job position at the time.
I do think Juheon is the kind of person who pays more attention to actions than emotions. That’s probably why he fell for Duho and misread him at first, he thought Duho was in love with him, when in reality, Duho just wanted to write his story ╮(￣▽￣)╭
We’ll have to see what they reveal about his disappearance, but I’m sure it’s deeply tied to his family, especially his grandfather. They’ve already shown that Juheon is a “project” for his aunt and a tool for his grandfather.
Exactly, Juheon is well aware of Dohu's emotions based on how he acted with him. But I still can't understand why he chose that route for their relationship.. He could've confronted Dohu and understood everything, then act accordingly. I'm never gonna excuse what Dohu did, but he should've at least paid the price for what he did upfront. They're not just two random people that bumped into each other, they were two people who are deeply in love. Or maybe only us can see this big picture and that's why I'm so upset.