My "happiness therapy" is back!!! ε=ε=(ノ≧∇≦)ノ
And so is our sassy little baby!ヾ(❀╹◡╹)ﾉ~ Stealing our hearts, and people's hair, in the first chapter!!!(≧∀≦)
While K's story truly is sad and heartbreaking, by the time we get to Milton enthusiastically milking himself, Fluffy being used for egg disposal, and back real time, with Little A scarfing down a plate full of fluffy eggs.... I was dying laughing!
... It's the only way he's going to silence all the voices in his head that have been haunting him his whole life. He has way too much trauma following him his entire life.... Way too much trauma to unpack, address, and resolve. No "superstition" is going to help him. What he figured out wasn't a superstition, it was a mind-body coping mechanism that is physically and mentally able to clear out his head for a short amount of time using sex the night before a match. It releases neurochemicals like dopamine, oxytocin, endorphins, and other hormones that have a drastic effect on the brain and how it functions, allowing it to relax itself and operate differently for a moment in time. He found a way to psychologically hack himself with short-term effects. But effective psychiatry/therapy will have more long-lasting results. The mentality of his entire career seems to be built after running away from the haunting voices, shame, and abuse of his past. He cannot spend the rest of his life running, he has to confront the trauma and go to therapy. Or else he is going to continue to burden Kim Dan and everybody else with all of that unhealed trauma.
The reason why I called him "boy/man" earlier is bcuz, even though he grew up into the man he is today, he still has the mentality of the little boy who was trying to survive. That part of him never grew up.
.... Is 100x different from reading a bunch of stories and *thinking* you know something. There are a lot of people on here that THINK they know what BDSM is, but they actually don't know anything at all- and their comments exposes that. Unless you've actually consistently trained, participated in, and consistently lived the lifestyle, no one here is going to know what full BDSM is. BDSM is very wide and varied depending on people's tastes, and kinks. It can be rough or soft, gentle or hard, simple or extreme, etc. There can be Master/slave, top/bottom, dominant/submissive titles and dynamics, or there can be none at all. It can be whatever you want it to be, as long as it is mutually agreed upon, it is within the realm of sane play, mutual respect for each other's mind and body, consent is maintained throughout the entire "play scene", and everybody's safety is assured.
"Rape play", "abduction/kidnapping", "consensual non-consent", and "humiliation and degradation play" is 100% part of BDSM. What comes off as "misogyny" to some people, is actually a form of "humiliation and degradation play". This is a legitimate kink and desire that some people have, and yes there are people in this world who are wired to be turned on by being spoken down to and treated in this manner. The "gangbang", "rape" and "abduction" play being depicted consistently meets all the pillars of BDSM play- which is safe, sane, and consensual. In addition there is an explicitly written out contract that all participants have to sign in order to engage with her, and the "suit guy" (I'm refraining from calling him Master because it's not indicated that he is one here in the story) in charge of this ensures that to ensure everyone's safety- most especially the woman's. Furthermore, the "suit guy" in charge of running these workshops vets the people he is inviting to participate in these scenes. His "business" of running these BDSM workshops, will not be successful if he does not thoroughly check each of the participants that are involved- otherwise, it can jeopardize everything and he can get into legal trouble. Every time he gathers people for this woman's workshop and they meet up, their conversations indicate that they already know each other, and have done this previous times before- it is in the language if you all bothered to pay attention to it.
Furthermore, a strict detailed contract is drafted, reviewed by the "suit guy" and the applicant, and signed before any scene/play begins. That is repeatedly expressed throughout the chapters in the beginning before a play scene starts. And throughout every single play scene that she's been through with all these men, they repeatedly and consistently check in with her- asking her if she wants to continue, telling her to "talk dirty" as consent to move forward, and giving her safe words or hand signals to use when she's had enough and to stop play. They continually communicate about what they're going to do to her, how they're going to treat her and use her body, so as not to genuinely shock/surprise/scare/traumatize her- all while keeping up the *ACT* of "random brutal men that want to rape her". All the men that have engaged with her are taking care of her 100%- catering to her sexual desires, while keeping her safe. The intimidation or slight fear that everyone is upset about the woman feeling, is a part of the play, and is kept up by the men's acting- this is called "edging" or "edge play" and involves emotional manipulation for the desired "thrill" of the scene. In both scenes you hear men expressing what they would normally do as a part of these "plays", but altering it for her consideration because he she is new, or hasn't had them as a partner yet.
I assure you the female lead is totally fine, and the author does a good job of expressing a proper BDSM scene and environment throughout the chapters. In my opinion, the author does have legitimate awareness and knowledge of how BDSM is supposed to be played and displays that knowledge abundantly in the work shown so far.
Just because you may not be aware of/know something, or just because you are uncomfortable with this story, that does not take away from the fact that this is 100% BDSM. There are many people in the lifestyle who actively enjoy and play these scenes as a part of their sex lives. You all don't have to like any of it, but at the same time try to educate yourself more about something that you do not know about before putting it down and possibly disrespecting others who actually live the lifestyle.
... Also, remember that they are repeatedly reminding her that this is HER FANTASY that she wanted to have played out. She expressed being completely new to any of this, and all the men are aware of that and are taking it into consideration throughout the play scenes, and as they try new things with her. If they pick up from her body language and emotional expression (this is also expressed in the story) that she is unsure, intimidated, scared, or distressed of what is happening, they pause play and remind her that this is HER FANTASY that they are playing out for her, and again ask her if she wants to continue after each new sexual act they introduce. Even the aggressive dirty talk from the men is a part of this. And she repeatedly engages with and responds physically to it all with body shivers and continuously getting wet the more they degrade her. She actually loves it, which is why she booked a second session for "suit guy"- she needs it to fulfill her hyper-sexual desires.
this is the first reply i’ve read after finishing it and i thought this was obvious! it’s so crazy how people always say they like ‘BDSM’ but are quick to judge other aspects of it. i’m personally not a cnc enjoyer whatsoever, but she literally had a contract with her kinks!! this is what SHE SIGNED UP FOR!!
Agreed! I just kept reading through the comments and and had to fight myself not to be annoyed- cuz people don't know what they don't know, common sense is not common if it was not taught, and things that are obvious would only be so to those who were informed. So instead of getting mad, I choose to inform and educate. Knowledge is power, and having more of it won't hurt anybody. There is more that enough toxicity on here without adding to it!
..... That aside, I think there does need to be something said about people's general reading and comprehension skills!
...the actual wedding ceremony in a side story! Teaju's extended family is too funny and adorable for us to not see them included in wedding preparations and shenanigans, and I want to see the children play a role in the wedding as well! They also need to invite the boss and the workers from the restaurant from when Euhyun was working back then. I can see all of us just dying from the cuteness overwhelm!
ε=ε=(ノ≧∇≦)ノ
...with our man's feelings!!!ヽ(`Д´)ﾉ The way her words during sex just crashed his heart to the floor, after she gassed it up into the heavens (claiming Taeha as her man) while telling off that stalker... Don't make me crash out on you sis! (╯°Д °)╯╧╧ Be honest with yourself and LOVE THAT MAN!!! (๑•ㅂ•)و✧
I was hella disappointed about the hiatus, cuz I've been waiting so desperately for an update.... until I saw the cow lingerie comic! That's good enough to hold me! Little A can definitely be a bit too dense sometimes! ╮(￣▽￣)╭
Also.... Little cow son GREW UP! (⊙…⊙ )
Or are these chapters short as fuck?! (⊙…⊙ )
.... Like, as soon as I started reading, the chapter was over! (╯°Д °)╯╧╧
Fuck that renaming bullshit! (︶︿︶)＝凸 If that were me, I'm not letting anyone call me "Heeya" (almost sounding like we're in Texas for a rodeo! #－.－) Its either my name, or a nickname I approve of, or I'm walking the fuck out!
....CENSORS A KISS?!?!!! (╯°Д °)╯╧╧ Fawk outta here with this bs!!! ヽ(`Д´)ﾉ