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.... Is 100x different from reading a bunch of stories and *thinking* you know something. There are a lot of people on here that THINK they know what BDSM is, but they actually don't know anything at all- and their comments exposes that. Unless you've actually consistently trained, participated in, and consistently lived the lifestyle, no one here is going to know what full BDSM is. BDSM is very wide and varied depending on people's tastes, and kinks. It can be rough or soft, gentle or hard, simple or extreme, etc. There can be Master/slave, top/bottom, dominant/submissive titles and dynamics, or there can be none at all. It can be whatever you want it to be, as long as it is mutually agreed upon, it is within the realm of sane play, mutual respect for each other's mind and body, consent is maintained throughout the entire "play scene", and everybody's safety is assured.
"Rape play", "abduction/kidnapping", "consensual non-consent", and "humiliation and degradation play" is 100% part of BDSM. What comes off as "misogyny" to some people, is actually a form of "humiliation and degradation play". This is a legitimate kink and desire that some people have, and yes there are people in this world who are wired to be turned on by being spoken down to and treated in this manner. The "gangbang", "rape" and "abduction" play being depicted consistently meets all the pillars of BDSM play- which is safe, sane, and consensual. In addition there is an explicitly written out contract that all participants have to sign in order to engage with her, and the "suit guy" (I'm refraining from calling him Master because it's not indicated that he is one here in the story) in charge of this ensures that to ensure everyone's safety- most especially the woman's. Furthermore, the "suit guy" in charge of running these workshops vets the people he is inviting to participate in these scenes. His "business" of running these BDSM workshops, will not be successful if he does not thoroughly check each of the participants that are involved- otherwise, it can jeopardize everything and he can get into legal trouble. Every time he gathers people for this woman's workshop and they meet up, their conversations indicate that they already know each other, and have done this previous times before- it is in the language if you all bothered to pay attention to it.
Furthermore, a strict detailed contract is drafted, reviewed by the "suit guy" and the applicant, and signed before any scene/play begins. That is repeatedly expressed throughout the chapters in the beginning before a play scene starts. And throughout every single play scene that she's been through with all these men, they repeatedly and consistently check in with her- asking her if she wants to continue, telling her to "talk dirty" as consent to move forward, and giving her safe words or hand signals to use when she's had enough and to stop play. They continually communicate about what they're going to do to her, how they're going to treat her and use her body, so as not to genuinely shock/surprise/scare/traumatize her- all while keeping up the *ACT* of "random brutal men that want to rape her". All the men that have engaged with her are taking care of her 100%- catering to her sexual desires, while keeping her safe. The intimidation or slight fear that everyone is upset about the woman feeling, is a part of the play, and is kept up by the men's acting- this is called "edging" or "edge play" and involves emotional manipulation for the desired "thrill" of the scene. In both scenes you hear men expressing what they would normally do as a part of these "plays", but altering it for her consideration because he she is new, or hasn't had them as a partner yet.
I assure you the female lead is totally fine, and the author does a good job of expressing a proper BDSM scene and environment throughout the chapters. In my opinion, the author does have legitimate awareness and knowledge of how BDSM is supposed to be played and displays that knowledge abundantly in the work shown so far.
Just because you may not be aware of/know something, or just because you are uncomfortable with this story, that does not take away from the fact that this is 100% BDSM. There are many people in the lifestyle who actively enjoy and play these scenes as a part of their sex lives. You all don't have to like any of it, but at the same time try to educate yourself more about something that you do not know about before putting it down and possibly disrespecting others who actually live the lifestyle.