
Recommend me some very toxic BL but either shounen-ai or very little focus on sex.

https://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/bait/
this is more a psychological read super plot heavy..I'd def check out the psychological+shounen ai to find more
https://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/stalker_s_game/

Yaoi where the couple are violent with each other but not abusive per se, like Aesthetics of Unpleasantness and Peace of God? NOT bdsm
Like, I know there's some abusive in AoU, but later they remain violent WITHOUT the abuse, it's just their dynamic

little confused on "no bdsm" because I'd say the works you've mentioned here feature sm. each word in the acronym doesn't necessarily all have to be present at the same time. it seems like you want stuff with sadomasochism without a strongly defined D/s or master/slave dynamic, or masochists who aren't exactly submissive.
don't think it's entirely on the mark, but the first things coming to mind are sneaky red by thanat and yoru wa tomodachi by ido gihou, and the side couple from lovesick dog by songhyel

Thanks for the recommendations!!
BTW, I meant no bdsm as in the violence being just a sexually satisfying practice, I want violence in their relationship that goes beyond the I hurt them in the bedroom only and there's never real rage (or anger/hatred, works too), behind it.
I want violence that is not established as just a sexual practice. They are actually violent towards one another, people who fight (at least in the beginning), and fuck and sometimes they do both simultaneously.
Yeah, in both works we have masochists (and a sadist) men, but I'm looking for moments of genuine rage, not just a performance of violence.
Causing pain with toys and slaps is cool and wtv, but I want faces getting punched, noses bleeding, etc, like a fight. Where they go to bed about it.

oh, I think I get what you mean better now... like a tension between the characters that expresses itself physically in the form of violence before turning to the sexual. butting heads till sparks fly and then the burning starts. tricky to find examples of it that I like since it's not often done in a way that's mutual or not just one overpowering/abusing the other. have you read perfect buddy? and if you're okay with a danmei novel, "faraway wanderers" by priest that has a bit of that dynamic.
I'll come back to this if I think of more

Looking for yaoi with guys who are down BAD for their crush and start act like a bird trying to impress a potential mate: pretending to be cooler/nicer/more competent. Preferably semes, but can be ukes.
Examples:
"Nah I always look like this" but spent hours choosing clothes, fixing hair, etc.
Asks for his friend to lose when combating or gives 150% in training and pretend it was easy to win so he can show off.
Rescues a kitty from a tree and pretends he does it everyday (has never gotten up on a tree before this).
"Of course I know how to pilot a boat" fucking wings it cuz he ain't gonna tell his crush he can't, that'd be lame, etc.
Yk when you get a crush and you you do things you know your crush will think is cool or sweet but if a friend saw they'd think you're soooo lame because uh wtf you doing, you never do that???
I want guys who are liars! Not Bad but they do things just to impress the guy they like and pretend no I didn't, this is destiny, we're written in the stars, I'm just always this nice/cool, I'm not flirting at all! Loser in love behavior (kudos if it works/the crush doesn't notice at first).
Like "oh, somebody asked to trade places, that's why I'm sat next to you" so his crush is thinking he's such a good person who does everyone favors, no, he was the one who asked to trade places and now he is acting nonchalant (This is specifically a scene from Tell Me You Can Hear It)
NOT looking for guys who are actually rude to everybody but is nice for his crush (it's fine if he is cold and pretends he's an extrovert if there's that Loser charm where he has to pretend in front of those who know how he actually is and he looks a bit pathetic for them, not scary) NOR hiding any secrets (like Otaku pretending to not be otaku, that's not adding something, that's detracting something).
Only people inflating themselves to appear more attractive or similar things.

ANYTHING that makes you feel like reading for the first time Tokyo Ghoul, Ajin, snk, apocalypse no toride, starving anonymous, etc.
Male MCs only. Preferably Manga, but I'm taking we comics too

https://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/choujin_x/ (this was written by Tokyo Ghoul's mangaka)
https://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/kagurabachi/ (peak)
https://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/tokyo_aliens/
https://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/bluelock/
https://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/winning_pass/
https://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/chainsaw_man/ (also peak)
https://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/berserk/
https://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/gachiakuta/
https://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/hunter_x_hunter/
https://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/galaxias/
https://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/ultimate_exorcist_kiyoshi/
https://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/madan_no_ichi/
https://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/centuria/
https://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/tougen_anki/

Any story of hearing thoughts but the one who can hear it is the seme?

not exactly what you’re looking for but seme can see a ghost attached to uke and the ghost shows uke’s feelings to him
https://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/koi_no_yuurei/

Fat uke plz? Or fat deme IF he is beautiful. Beards and hairy is fine if he's beautiful

i’ve never heard of anything like that in regards to the uke, but here’s a popular one about the seme.
https://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/respect_for_taste/
though i have to say hes not treated kindly.
Shounen-ai with kids MCs but NOT shotacon, please! Only fluff pure sweet things. Not teens/high schoolers, but kids
Anything like the beginning of To Deny the Route or Akuyaku no Goreisoku no Dounika Shitai Nichijou. You know how stories with kid MCs starts setting a future romance and the feelings of first love is already there? I want that, except it's mlm instead of mlw. Don't even need to be the focus, anything like childcare stories, they usually pair up a baby boy and a baby girl.
No yaoi or stories where the MC is only a kid on the first chapter, I want cuteness, the fluffiness, I wanna watch the innocence of a first love blooming when you don't even know what love is. The whole "I'm gonna marry him" said sincerely because the fact that same sex marriage wasn't legal isn't something a kid knows, etc etc etc.
i think this fits
https://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/salad_days_tang_liuzang/
https://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/salad_days_tang_liuzang/
Thank you both, lovelies , I've already read it but still