beta
The man has tattoos, scars and is very blunt and rugged. Your first and most likely only thought is usually “wow a gangster!” And his initial thought was also “scary! A gangster!” So what did he expect??
Also, as long as ahjuicy has never hurt you (outside of what you consent to), I don’t really see the reason to care. You’ve been wilfully ignorant this whole time so just maintain that. Nothing changes. You’re not married. You’re not bringing a child into the relationship. You’re glorified BDSM partners/lovers. Him being a gangster is irrelevant to his dick or his sadism.