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Your first time doing anal will almost always hurt like your being split apart and it’s hard to breathe and it’s just shitty shitty shitty unless you add another stimulus to relax your muscles. It hurts cause your body is literally doing two actions at once, it’s trying to accommodate what it assumes is a really really large turd while also forcing it out so it’s closing itself at the top whenever you pull out and only opening where the dick is so you’re forcing it back in every time until your body relaxes into it. So please please please utilise other erogenous zones. I know yaoi likes to pretend that no prep, no foreplay and no additional touching is fine and anal only is a-ok for beginners but it’s really not. You need farrrrr more lube than you think is enough. You need so much that you think “uh I think I put too much” and then a bit more than that. You should probably get up to 3 maybe 4 fingers depending on how large the object is that is going inside and touch your erogenous zone during this so you can relax and enjoy it and learn what feels really good so you can hit that spot with the thing that’s being shoved in later. Not doing so can seriously damage your colon and asshole and that’s a horrible recovery considering that literal shit comes out of there and that’s not clean and sanitary so the chance of you getting an infection or complications is probably high. If you rip at all or feel pretty swollen, please use some anal ointment. It’s pretty cheap and really effective. And lastly, Don’t use yaoi as a how-to guide to anal sex! If you want a guide, check out bara cause at least that’s made by gay men for gay men!
Love yall and stay safe