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This was probably the most well-fitted backstory for Jaekyung, because it explains his comfort with older folks (which can stem from the Director helping him out, but also a subconscious feeling of ease around people who are “less powerful” than him or that he can maintain control around). Plus, his anger with Dan’s drinking, him recognizing the “stench of poverty,” why he can’t express love or recognize it, and his desire to be at the top (for his mom, to prefect himself, and to prove to his bullies that he is not weak).
Trauma responses are not simple. They are not easy to understand, and everyone’s way of coping is different. Where Dan gets quiet and spirals, Jaekyung is filled with anger and puts up walls. They’ve both suffered, but you CANNOT expect Jaekyung to act like Dan. He would really benefit from some therapy, but unfortunately right now in the Mingwa universe the focus is love.
I’m seeing people say that he should be more empathetic towards Dan since he went through some of the same things, but there’s a specific type of anger/detachment in this scenario that can get in the way of that empathy — it is not that simple. It’s a feeling close to superiority (for getting out of that situation), but in a sense, not quite. It’s not about being an asshole. Sometimes these ugly feelings and complexes arise and you don’t even realize.
•Although it sucks, and I love Dan, liking someone puts them under absolutely ZERO obligation to like you back. Jaekyung was an ass about it, but he didn’t need to reciprocate any of Dan’s romantic feelings. They had an “agreement” (but yes, Jaekyung took advantage of Dan in that moment and made him agree).
•Jaekyung’s past does not excuse his actions, but rather, makes them easier to understand.
•I kind of want to see Jaekyung eventually tattoo Dan’s initials or something (later on, of course) since he can’t wear rings as an mma fighter).
Well said
Whoa you put it perfectly!
Does anyone have any recs with a ml that’s a PROFESSIONAL pussy eater? I’m not talking about once in one chapter, I mean a real munch pls ლ(´ڡ`ლ)
Edit: if you also have some of professional ass eaters (yaoi)… that works too (▰˘◡˘▰)
I’ve been thinking since chapter 72, on my own experiences and knowledge of psychology. You can say that sure, JJ’s past explains everything and that’s that — but I find this sort of thing interesting because of how significantly your guardians can influence your future. Just rambling here for funsies. I’m saying this because I’m seeing at least two groups of people in the comments:
1. I hate JJ and give zero fucks about his backstory.
2. Oh my god, I forgive him regardless of the shit he put Dan through!
This is more for group 1, and keep in mind that this isn’t true for all cases of course, but it might put this “sob story” into perspective.
I can put in this way, to be concise: some people live with an angry man in their upbringing. He’s in that house with them, but he doesn’t disappear no matter where that person goes, ever — even when he’s dead. Be it a voice, a nightmare, a glance in the mirror (although, some therapy and introspection sure can tuck him away).
Of course, nothing excuses JJ’s actions, and I really can’t wait to see him on his knees begging for a chance (so long as Mingwa doesn’t rush the plot). I’m sure she just threw in the most devastating story she could think of — but that’s the thing — it fits perfectly. The nature of rage in JJ, being triggered seeing Dan drink himself into a stupor, comfort with elders, and quite a bit more, which I won’t go into because this is getting long.
It’s easy to say that Dan experienced something similar and turned out way better, but you can’t compare the trauma of two people like that. It just isn’t that simple; trauma responses are not something you can dictate. If they were that easy, you wouldn’t need to attend years of school to become a psychiatrist. I can’t say I forgive him, and if I were Dan I’d probably stay away from JJ regardless of what he does to work on himself (Dan must be so traumatized) but alas, this is the yaoi universe and we all know how this will end.
Anyway, before I get temp banned from commenting because of comment length, if you wanna get into JJ’s character more, I think it would be fun, and I’m pretty active in my mangago mail. I’ve been enjoying Jinx quite a bit these recent chapters. WOW I sound like I’ve never touched grass. Anyway!