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I feel like people aren't realizing that Andrew hasn't addressed any of his past trauma and it's putting a strain on their relationship. Being overly codependent and only having Luke isn't a good thing, humans need socialization. This also means Luke becomes responsible for all of Andrew's socialization and emotional needs, which isn't practical. There's a reason it's emphasized that people need a support system and community. Andrew refusing to socialize and choosing to stay closed off from others is an issue and it is already causing problems as seen in this chapter. Andrew feels insecure and jealous because he put their relationship in a power imbalance. To him, Luke is his number #1 priority because he has no other priorities or goals in life, therefore centering everything around Luke. But because Andrew has this unhealthy mentality, he can't help but feel insecure with his relationship with Luke. And this is because unlike him, Luke has a community, friends and other goals in his life. Luke has options, whereas Andrew made Luke his only choice. It's bound to brew insecurity and resentment.

Andrew clearly hasn't addressed or worked through any of his past trauma either. Yes, he's been through some pretty intense and messed up situations, but instead of growing from them, he became stuck. While being extra vigilant or cautious is ok, completely cutting off everyone and being overly paranoid isn't ok. While we the readers know about the photos and the possibility of outing the couple, the couple does not know that. So far what Bruno has done to Luke is small petty things. Yes constantly changing the script is cr*p and locking him in the storage room could have been dangerous (but Luke was only in there for a few hours and was physically ok. Also, Bruno came back to let him out, because he felt bad). These aren't ultra terrible things, and weren't things done out of malice but desperation (Derrick picked Bruno because he was someone from a poor background and would be easy to manipulate. Bruno is the main breadwinner, and succeeding in his career can get his family out of poverty). Bruno also isn't an evil person because if he was, he would have handed the photos over immediately, he wouldn't have gone back to let Luke out, and we wouldn't see his inner turmoil and turbulent emotions; he wouldn't have felt bad or feel guilt. But he does. It's because he's a good person that he's hesitant to hurt Luke and hand over the photos. He avoids Luke because he feels guilty. He's not a bad person, he's a person who has done bad things (specifically so his family can have a better life). The reason why Andrew is reacting so intensely and assuming the worst is because of his past experiences, that were extreme circumstances. The average person is too busy worrying about paying rent to come up with schemes to destroy someone's life. Andrew comes from a rich, political background, so while his assumptions of Derrick are correct (because they both come from that same background and were brought up the same way), his assumptions of others are wrong. The reason why Andrew feels comfortable telling Luke to cut off Bruno and doesn't understand Luke's hesitancy is because Andrew doesn't let anyone in. Andrew runs away from others, whereas Luke doesn't. If you cut off everyone over any small betrayal, you will be completely alone. Even now Andrew feels betrayed that Luke isn't immediately agreeing with him and immediately cutting Bruno off. Being in any sort of relationship means you have to be open to getting hurt to an extent.

What Luke is showcasing is basic empathy and emotional maturity. These recent chapters further prove it. He's not naive, he KNOWS what Bruno has been doing and instead of completely throwing away the relationship, he's choosing to try and salvage it. There's a reason why Luke is choosing to try and work things out with Bruno compared to how things went down with Derrick. Because he knows Bruno is a good person and Derrick was is a bad one. It would be stranger for Luke to immediately cut Bruno off because after years of friendship, Bruno suddenly started acting out of character and difficult during 1 project. Luke has also gone through intense emotional and psychological manipulation with his past relationship. While he could have completely cut everyone off, developed intense trust issues or harbored ill will towards Andrew and Stacy, he decided to grow from it instead. And that's where Luke and Andrew differ. Andrew is still stuck in his past afraid to develop relationships with others out of fear of being hurt. Whereas, because Luke took the time to grieve and move on, he's not held back by the fear of getting hurt and is able to freely pursue relationships with others. Luke doesn't let the past stop him from living, but Andrew let's his past stop him (he's stuck at the restaurant).

**Also, if Luke shared the same mentality as Andrew, he and Andrew would have never gotten close to begin with. Because that relationship was ROCKY, and it's because of Luke's emotional maturity and understanding that he was able to improve his relationship with Andrew. Because while Andrew was acting out because of trauma, what he did to Luke in the beginning was on par if not worse than what Bruno is doing now. (he literally punched Luke in the face and beat him up in chapter 6)