Doesn't excuse him or justify him, but lets you understand how he turned out the way he did. Trauma looks different for each person, and it's complicated because it's reality.
1.) There are victims of abuse who learned that no one should ever suffer the way they did.
2.) There are also cases like Jerkyung, who couldn't properly heal and projected their pain to somebody else. Not like this exact situation, but I've watched people who were abused, pass on that said abuse (in a different way) to their children, and I am, again, watching how these children neglect their own children. It's painful to see, and very much frustrating because no matter how you try to guide and lead them, the abuse is like an ingrained normalcy in their bones. Worst part, they don't think they're doing wrong. The belief that it's “normal” is so deeply rooted in them, so they don't do something about it. My family pulled one person off that environment, and although she already made choices she couldn't go back from, she's living a bit better. Her issue is a different one, which is the last case I wanted to talk about.
3.) There are victims of abuse who learn, but whose coping mechanisms border on the questionable, which I guess makes them not fully healed yet. (This person we helped, her child became too spoiled that it's also become another painful thing to watch. I remember she used to say she would give everything she couldn't have to the kid. This child, if not raised properly, will suffer from a different kind of consequence because the traumatized victim projected her healing onto her kid.) And well, just to emphasize on this, another common example are overprotective parents — will not dive into it, I think we all get this part.
So, yes, traumas look different and we all heal differently from them as well. I can't say for sure for other people, but this is why I want to give Jerkyung the chance to do better. Of course, this doesn't mean I support his relationship with Dan. I stand by my previous comment (probably months or years ago already), that if after everything, Dan still ends up with him, welp, that's his choice and the author's angle. Remember, this is just a fictional story. Personally, I do not have the energy the deal with these kinds of intensities, so by then, I will imagine a different ending where they both heal and there is forgiveness, but no romantic ties.
[Sorry for the ramble. It's dawn.]
I wanted to see what this was about so I was skimming through the later chapters. Made me gag. I need to know if she's actually single because in a span of ten chapters, I saw that she slept with 3 different guys. LMAO like what's happening? Is she timing? Is this story worth it?
No she’s basically just traumatized from her first and only relationship. Turns out the guy was planning on marrying her eventually so he could secure the bag and reveals that he didn’t even like her he was just putting on an act. She then dumps him (good for her) but he said some hurtful words that really stuck with her. Then fast forward to an important event going on at school, ex-bf and his mom show up and trash her project in front of everyone and then rumors spread around the school because of her. <- after that whole ordeal happens she swears to only be with guys for sex and nothing more.
At the beginning of the story she explains that her and her bestie promised to never hook up/date guys from their uni to avoid detailed gossip about them getting leaked. She agreed to this in like solidarity but doesn’t quite see the harm in sleeping with the 3 guys and keeps it on the dl from her bestie.
Gossip/rumors and insecurities are key focal points in this story but I feel like it’s just too in your face about it?? The choices the fl makes are also frustrating to watch because she finds out that one of the three guys she’s hooking up with is helping plot her downfall yet she brushes it off and keeps on taking back shots.
Yeyyy, thank you for the context! I guess I'll bury this on my read list for now. Currently not in the mood for drama and frustrations. From what you mentioned, I would get too annoyed with the love interests and the female lead. Kinda looking for tougher and plot armored MCs right now. Thanks again!!
Does this have a novel?
It should, considering I've seen spoilers of the potential love interest for a looooong time already. You might find something if you take the title and write "novelupdates" after it on google, if it exists it should be there, and so may be a link to a translated version (sometimes you find them from the spoiler discussion forums tho).
I'm back after a few yrs or maybe just over a year, but I vaguely remember this story has already ended HAHAHAHAHAHAHA maybe I dropped this for a reason, assumed a conclusion I agree to, and believed it was over. Can anyone tell how things are going now? Is it nearing the end?
Erm this is far from finishing lol but I recommend picking it back up although everyone pisses me off, but Shuri is such a strong fl
IT'S HERE IT'S HERE!!!! AAAA IM SO EXCITED TO SEE IT W.VISUALS HAHAHAHAHA OMG PLSSSSS HURRYYYY
Can't wait for one of them to just drop dead already or I'll be the one choking from frustration.
How many more chapters till the end, including extras if there are any? Hehe, thank you!
Next chap is the end
No wayyyy. I actually stopped reading the novel way before because I wanted to read the freaky scene in comics. I've waited for many months, got so excited, and now a hiatus. T^T Whatever, right? I waited this long already, what are three weeks?
Hiii!! Can i ask where i can read the novel too
i use the website ‘spring of romance’, just type in TGMND and it should be ch113 if u want to read on where the hiatus left at!! ^^~
Is this completed already?? (asking cuz i want to know before i start reading it)
yes it is!