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But it’s not an excuse to be wishy-washy to another person.
What if this is you? What if you’re in the top’s position, and you’re being swayed left and right, that special someone got your hopes up only to leave you in the end?
His trauma is reasonable but not excused.
Put yourself in the top’s position, it must hurt badly.
“Well, imagine being in the bottom’s position with the trauma.”
Okay. So, the bottom is the older one. Meaning, he’s got more experience with life. Meaning, he’s supposed to be more matured than the younger one. If he knows he’s got trauma and can’t commit to the top, don’t bother himself by going to him for sex and affection whenever he feels lonely just to dump him.
Just because you’re lonely but you can’t commit to commitment, means that you can use people as you please and still call yourself a victim.
Imagine if the top does that to the bottom. Y’all would be furious. You would be calling him names.
As much as the bottom defender team tries to defend him, he’s a shitty person. A shitty person doesn’t deserve good things.
The bottom acts like he’s the victim when he’s not. Yes, he’s a victim of his trauma but the top hasn’t done anything to instigate the trauma. It’s the bottom himself doing it to himself. He’s victimizing himself.
I don’t defend someone who victimizes themself when they’re in the wrong.