:Warning this is long: and the spacing got f’ed. I’m going to echo others by re-confirming that self awareness is always the first step. Self reflection is not something everyone can do. Tbh, and not to downplay your very real, very valid feelings but this fluctuating of thoughts and emotions sounds like hormones. Meaning that these extremes ......   reply
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Hey, so you're not entirely an asshole if you do actually appreciate their efforts and try to self-reflect. I think honestly, what you can do right now is tell others that you appreciate their work and also I'm aware that you're struggling about self-appreciation but whenever you're feeling like that, tell yourself "This is enough, I did my best." ......   reply
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If you feel like you are about to explode, you are probably bottling up your feelings. Try to express them in some way: painting, writing, singing, acting or just buying a journal to vent. See a psychologist if you can just to learn how to express yourself properly and see if what you are feeling is true or if you have self hatred. Good luck! Don't......   reply
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you could try something like a regular gratitude journal but for other ppl's good points;; like writing "It's nice that Mary always shows up early and sets the table up for lab" or "Jane does awesome in verbal presentations and she fixed her references completely";;; but also it's totes normal to want validation or be competitive, just focus it on ......   reply
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there are always going to be people who are better than you. if it's not the person next to you, it'll be your coworkers. if not them, you'll look at all the people on TV and think to yourself, "man why do they get xxxx things? what makes me so different from them?" The only person you should compare to is yourself and your own happiness, because......   reply
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Maybe.. learning how to be humble?? I mean from what I’m hearing you already believe that you’re better then the people you know, but it sounds like they’re are still lingering insecurities you are facing and maybe that’s why you don’t feel comfortable in your own skin. It’s the constant comparisons between yourself and your friends wit......   reply
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May I offer a perspective I've learned about wanting to be better than everyone else? I think a lot of us grow up with the mindset that we need to be special. That we are special. Maybe it's because we have a talent for X. Maybe it's because we look like Y. Maybe because A,B,C. But why do we want to be special? Smarter? Prettier? Nicer? Most likel......   reply
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I agree with the person that said some of your feelings are probably valid. Media also contributed to my life views. So watching heartwarming shows help. I was also taught empathy. I’ve always been a kind person but sometimes I fumble. When I was like 18 or 19, a man had approached me asking to buy him food. I was so surprised I apologized and ......   reply
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The first step to changing, is admitting that something is wrong with you. Your self awareness already proves you've accomplished that. To start, saying you want to become a better person is to vague. Try to think about what exactly about yourself you want to change. And if there are multiple things focus on one at a time. Think about what you'll d......   reply
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I think these feelings are all valid. People feel the same, even I have felt like this at one point. I think the first step is to be conscious about it and acknowledge it, which is what you're already doing! You're making great progress :) The next thing is to figure out strategies to help become more confident in yourself, and feel ok without need......   reply
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