Be A Mushroom

So I came out to her months ago, told her I'm bi and non-binary. Then she brought up that she's scared of gay men since the one she met during her childhood kept on pulling her hair. She's also apparently scared of feminine gay men who likes make-up and feminine things because they're to "flamboyant". This all made me feel uncomfortable, I told her that just because one gay child was mean to you before doesn't mean that everyone will be.

Months later, we met again. She brought this shit up again. I don't want to discredit her experience with a mean person but lumping a whole marginalized group into your "bad idea" of someone is downright bigoted. I don't know how to confront her about this.

The more uncomfortable part is that she likes reading BL and would use the terms bottom and top. She even shared a gay sex meme and used those two terms. It's just so uncomfortable to witness especially when she says that she's "scared" of gay men but would actively consume media that portrays romantic and sexual relationships between men.