Leanan
10 05,2020
..i feel for you, is a tricky one.. Based on what you are saying, it does seem that you are the one doing most of the work, and compromising in the relationship, which is not fair. It puts all the pressure, to make things work, on you. She does not seem to do much to meet you half-way. Is ok for couples to have different hobbies and stuff, but is n......   reply
10 05,2020
yogoyo
10 05,2020
If she's making you feel uncomfortable, and she's not compromising when you decide to do stuff and about the dog (this is a serious problem don't say otherwise), I'm sorry to say but you're not meant to be. If you've been with her for about 4 months this is enough to give you an idea about who she is (it is known that people usually can fake their ......   reply
10 05,2020
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10 05,2020
In my opinion it doesn't seem like your relationship is going anywhere. As rude and straightforward as it sounds it's true from what I've read, but I could be wrong. The most you can do is talk to her about these problems. Whether it's just you being self conscious or really do feel like she isn't really helping in the relationship you have to conf......   reply
10 05,2020
JulyInAugust
10 05,2020
I'll be very honest with you. There is no point in a relationship that stress you out or make you miserable in any sort of way. Your best option is to have an open discussion with her. Tell her how you feel and what bother you. Don't tell her you are thinking of breaking off though because it will pressure her. If she don't hear you out, don't care......   reply
10 05,2020
kohakyuuu
10 05,2020
Hi! It’s definitely true that the both of you are not on the same page and I totally understand how it feels to be treated unfairly, kind of like double standards, right? I’ve been in a relationship for 3 years and there’s been a lot of small bumps like that, but trust me, they definitely turn into bigger obstacles the more you pile them on t......   1 reply
10 05,2020
BluishPurple
10 05,2020
Honestly if you feel the relationship isn’t working out you should leave before it gets harder to move on. Some relationships are difficult at first but after speaking and compromising with each other it ends up working out. To me l don’t feel that she is taking your feelings into consideration - you do things that she enjoys but she won’t do......   1 reply
10 05,2020
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10 05,2020
Hm I think you should tell her how you feel but as you say that she is sensitive so use some gentel words who knows she will understand how you feel but if this still goes on than you should just break up with her or you can ask her for sometime so that you can give a deep thought about your relationship that if you want to break up or still wann......   2 reply
10 05,2020
Should I Break Up?? [Question]
Joey
10 05,2020
Serious question I've had and I need some advice honestly...
I've recently started dating this girl, it has been perhaps about 4 months and things aren't looking too well. One of the reasons is because of the quarantine and then there are some emotional reasons, some really petty reasons but overall I just don't know what to do. Personally, she is the first person I have ever dated. She, on the other hand, has dated others before me. Mostly other girls as she thought she was lesbian before we met....something I'm just really confused about but she's never made me not feel like she doesn't like me. So I dont see that as a problem.

Because of the recent quarantine that has been affecting everyone everywhere around the world, the whole issue of not going to work is causing her a lot of stress, she is not someone that can be at home. Not at all, she prefers to go out and do things outside rather than stay inside the house and play video games or watch movies/series. So we clash a lot in that sense. Which really doesn't bother me, we can compromise most often. However, when it comes to doing certain things, like go watch a movie she likes I will try to say no if I don't feel up to it but she will still force me to go. But when its vice versa she just rejects entirely, I thought that perhaps she would want to do the things I want eventually but she still doesn't and says she won't. At first I thought it was okay, I wasn't gonna force her and then again I thought it would be good for me to try new things. I mean I try to show interest in the things that she likes but she doesnt want to show interest in the things that I like, not only that but I feel like she judges me for liking anime/manga and other things that relate to that. I know some people arent interested in it, and shes told me that she has no problem with it but just wont go out of her way to try and watch it or read it. But at this point I feel like I'm stuck.

Then there's the whole thing of dating and living together....the earliest she wishes to move in together is 6 months and the latest would be 1 year...I don't know about that. To me I would expect at least 5 years before moving in together, to me that is enough time to get to know someone...but when I say that she just laughs and says no, that's not what we're doing. Honestly to me that's just a lot of stress and I've tried talking to her about it...she won't change her mind even so, I mean that doesn't bother me but more so just puts stress on me and I wish she could take into consideration how I feel about it.

I really don't know what to do, like I've tried explaining to her countless times about things like those or about how I'm allergic to dogs and, she has a dog, she has it sleep on the bed all the time so I'm constantly having problems with sleeping when I go over to her house. I mean...these arent exactly big big problems but I'm constantly stressed about what I could say to her to make her try to understand. Or, because I'm not the most affectionate guy, I'm constantly watching what I say to her because she's very sensitive and cries for a lot of things...which is fine, I get she's just a little sensitive I have no problem with that. But all I'm ever really doing is apologizing and comforting her...
Well anyway, I just need some advice or if I can do something or if I just need to break up with her. I mean I would prefer not to since I do like her, but I feel like I just wasn't prepared for dating yet. Or at least I don't want to move at the pace she wants to move at.
10 05,2020
I want to focus on my studies more soooooo yup SINGLE LIFE even though some of my friends are in a relationship,I myself sometimes feel tempted as well but nah no one would like an ugly banana like so me XDD   2 reply
05 04,2020
I can get clingy and I have low self-confidence, so I end up getting paranoid. I also never take the first step because I'm afraid of destroying the friendship that's already there.   reply
05 04,2020

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