Falling Inlove

i have a question, how do you know you are in love with someone and not trying to make something out of nothing?

so i would like to say i’ve been in love with people, but sometimes i just question if i really know what love is. i think i’ve experienced being loved romantically, but i’d also like to say platonically as well. i’ll give my experience below:

i’ve dated about three people in my life, and each one was different. the first one i know was platonic because i was young and wanted to fit in as did the other person. the second time was in eighth grade and i feel like i really could’ve liked them if i tried but i found to many faults i couldn’t accept bc i feel like it wasn’t real. i feel bad about it because i lead the person on. we are still friends and talk from time to times.

but the third time i felt like it was real. atleast on my side? i don’t know, it was a while ago. we barely keep in touch now, i still think about them but i don’t know if i’m really in love or making something out of nothing... i don’t know but it seems you feel more when u know it’s true then when you are not sure and don’t know.

i used to get butterflies with their voice and got anxious when we hung out at each other’s houses. but the more time i saw them the more i felt something and i wasn’t sure if it was a good or bad feeling... i would notice a lot of things in their daily lives that they did that would make me uncomfortable and you know i noticed a lot of flaws with people and usually i don’t care and don’t think anything of it. and i’ve heard that if you really love someone then even their flaws will be beautiful but i found them rather unattractive. i don’t know if that’s just me being judgmental bc i do tend to be(not on purpose) in my daily life.

i also wanted something more then they did. and we worked and worked on things but sometimes i couldn’t give it my all. and i might be putting a lot of the weight on myself but i truly felt like it. and even now i don’t think i’m pointing out anything but their flaws so i’ll point out somethings i found beautiful.

they would dance to anything, which sometimes went inappropriate with the moment, like bad moments i mean. and they would laugh at the dumbest memes ever. i wouldn’t even find them funny i would just laugh bc their laugh was contagious. they always say cross legged no matter what they were sitting on. even a counter. i found it truly funny and amazingly cute but i don’t know if these are fickle things. they just come to mind when i think about them. i wonder if i really love them when i found more flaws than good...?

i’m not trying to get back together with them bc they are already with somebody else and i won’t ruin that for them now. i just want to come to terms with my feelings.

Hi.. Soo, I'm best friends with this guy, and he was my best friend's ex. After he and my best friend broke up (bc apparently their personalities and tastes didn't really match), he fell in love with me and asked me out.

I'm sure he doesn't have any ulterior motives and that he moved on already from his past relationship since we texted and called A LOT (I was always there for him to give him love advices, keep him company and stuff)

He tried really hard to flirt with me, but I ofc rejected him... I didn't want to be awkward with my best best best friend :///. I don't dislike his personality; he's really sweet a guy, but can be pretty possessive, which is what I saw when he was in a relationship with my best friend.

When I officially, clearly rejected him face to face, I had a talk with him and really hurt his feelings. I couldn't help it; I liked his friend. And now he got with a pretty girl and we're still friends... But I can't help it and want him to give me more attention..... Trust me, I'm not an attention-seeker, I'm more that kind of timid and quiet girl.. Idk why... What should I do in this case?


I can't just go to him and get him bc he is the type of guy very loyal to his girlfriend and would do anything for her.. I would totally be laughed off and rejected. BUT I'm sure that this feeling goes away after he's single again... Maybe I'm just trying to find another relationship, but there's literally NO other guy to ask out..... Please tell me what should I do? TT