Honestly, Im not sure what my sexuality is. I often find myself pondering about what makes a person attractive to me. Frankly, as an extroverted people pleaser, its not difficult for me to start relationships; talking to people is easy and people are usually drawn to an easygoing attitude that takes the lead. From middle school up till high school I had a horrible habit, it was easy to flirt and lead others on, saying “I love you” meant nothing and seeing them get flustered by physical touch was more fun than the action itself, I purposely flirted with those i knew had a crush on me just to see their reactions despite knowing i would never reciprocate their feelings. Although, I’ve dated both genders, in the end, i still don’t know what i want because my feelings were never real and I just did it to make the other person happy. Now that I’m older and have reflected, I think that it’s too easy to look at a person and say “their looks are my type” and harder to find a genuine reason to feel attracted to that person. I can’t tell if I’m missing the emotional attraction that’s required to start a healthy relationship or just confused.
Over quarantine I’ve questioned my sexuality. I discovered that I’m actually also attracted to girls, especially after starting to be attracted to one of my friends. But, and this has happened with every single one of my crushes, I’ve just stopped liking her. I’ll like someone for like 2 weeks, I’ll talk to them and just have fun, and then something’ll happen, like I’ll ask them out, and then the next day, sometimes even right after, I’ve just stopped liking them. I’m keeping my bisexual label for now, but I want an explanation. My confidence grew over quarantine, and I’m scared I’ll just stop being so confident. You can @ me if you think I’m being dramatic, but I’m just unsure.
Is it weird if I am straight when it comes to sex but pan when it comes actually love? I don't care what gender when it comes to dating but if having sex I just want to dick... And I don't even like sex that much. say if I'm your lover, and you don't have a d, and I say, 'hey you don't have a d, can we just love each other without having sex?' are you still with me or 'nah, you dick lover bitch. Just go and find your d' or you have another answer?
And if you have same case as me, are you fine if your partner go around fuck with someone else cause you can not pleases them? I think is fine as long they love me right? Or I just being dumb?
Feel free to roast me if you find this question weird af lolololol.
And if you have same case as me, are you fine if your partner go around fuck with someone else cause you can not pleases them? I think is fine as long they love me right? Or I just being dumb?
Feel free to roast me if you find this question weird af lolololol.
So I've realized until now that as a boy, I've been attracted to strong-willed, tomboyish girls and I only view other girls without those characteristics as friends. Later I found out that one of the girls I've been attracted to had gotten themselves a girlfriend. I've been thinking if I'm really attracted to girls or just using these characteristics as an excuse and actually attracted to boys. Because one time I found my male classmate attractive that I just want to get close to him but his personality turned me off. I am a also a little effeminate so I do get along with girls and I can be a gentleman and show courtesy to girls as well, but what I also want is to be shown courtesy like to other girls, I wanted to be the one protected and cared for (a treatment which mostly only girls get). So I wonder: What exactly is my sexuality?
I’m not sure if I’m bisexual or pansexual, because I like guys and girls, I’m attracted to both, but I won’t like someone if I don’t know them or their personality, but I’m sexually attracted to girls and guys, and of course it doesn’t if they are trans. Im not sure since I have never been in a relationship, platonic or erotic, but I don’t think it matters what they identify as, I’m a bit confused . But I’m not “gender blind” I do think about the person gender