Gays, if you could change one thing about Yaoi/Yuri, what would it be?

As a lesbian, I love it when I read a good GL, but sometimes there are things that still urk me when I read them. That being said, as an avid BL reader, I'm sure there's a lot of gays that feel the same way about BL. So I want to ask Fellow Gay and Lesbians if there's one thing they'd want to change about Yaoi and Yuri, besides the whole fetishization, which everyone wants to be changed. So what would it be for you? Mine would be the fact that in a lot of yuri manga, if it isn't ecchi, the romance elements in the manga can often be vague or not really there to the point where the reader can argue that it more of a strong friendship than romance. I have more like, the where the one of the characters confessing their love to a person of the same sex is played as a joke even in GL and BL, and everyone is supposed to be shocked by it. That being said, I'd like to hear all of your opinions as well! Also! Feel free to add your gripes as say, a Bisexual with your gripes about your portrayal in manga as well, along with other sexual identities ^^