struggling with smut manga

I find it really hard to find a GOOD m x f smut manga to read- whether legal or illegal.
Especially one with female protagonists, it makes me sad how it is common in Japan to write them as naive women who are taken advantage of by non-consenting dominant love interests.
I would love to see more strong women in smut manga who can actually have more fun and power in the smutty scenes; ones who can challenge their love interests if they mess up.

I remember i was so hyped to read the smut manga about a sexy incubus (sex demon) because damn they are HOT ...but i was so disappointed to find out that he ends up abusing a teenage girl who only wanted to study for her exams....
(like i wonder why can't the incubus go full dong on a consenting adult instead? )
And then i compare it to the ecchi succubus manga that i once read that was SUPER CUTE... and a BL incubus manga which was also SUPER CUTE...yet no smut manga even matches up to these two which is disappointing.
it kinda baffles me why there aren't enough variety in women protagonist personalities in m/f smut manga either.
are there any good m/f smut manga? do they exist?????????