question for mlm

hi bi girl here who reads bl gl and sl.

i get bashed for reading bl, whether it be sexual or innocent, and called a fetishizer.

am i a fetishizer for reading any form of bl? even if i don’t care what gay men do in their lives, and i don’t care about them having sex??

i have many mlm friends who have told me im fine reading bl as long as i don’t fetishize mlm, and i don’t, but i still have people coming at me saying just reading it means i fetishize them, even people who aren’t even mlm.

i just wanna know. someone tell me.