BL and gay fetishization
if you are going to insert yourself into and produce media about a group of minorities that you are not a part of, it is THE BARE MINIMUM for you to educate yourself on that community so that you are not pushing stereotypes about them. fictional media influences how we view certain communities whether you want to admit it or not and bad representation in fictional media can cause incredible amount of harm to already marginalised communities.
if you are not NB/MLM it is YOUR RESPONSIBILITY to educate yourself on our issues so that you are not harming us. it is not your place to dictate what hurts us and it is most certainly not your place to lead conversations about us.
if a gay person is aggressive about not wanting women in our spaces it is most likely because they have first hand experience in how incredibly disgusting it can be. by mocking that anger and invalidating it, you are further harming us.
the language and actions you use can have repercussions, the stereotypes and tropes you put out and give positive feedback can have repercussions. i am sick and tired of having non gay people telling us how we should feel and leading discussions about us when it is clear they know nothing.
the reason we are generalising when we point issues out is because we have no other choice. we wont be listened to if we arent aggressive in our approach. we wont be listened to unless we point fingers at everyone. if you arent someone who partakes in the harmful behaviour we point out, there should be no reason for you to get defensive.
