Made an account just to ask this so can I get actual answers please

Alright so I just saw someone ask about homosexuals watching straight porn is similar to heteros watching gay porn. So if one is classified as fetishizing then the other is too right? Now the replies were just either calling the question dumb or completely ignoring it. I get that question can sound dumb due to the way its worded but what if that person was genuinely confused and just wanted answer?

I'm not too caught up with this 'problem' yet so just correct me if I'm wrong or say something offensive.

To you people saying that yaoi fetishizes gay people umm

Isn't yaoi just gay porn? Like why aren't yall getting heated in the phub comment section of a gay sex video??

Before yall assume things:

-I'm bisexual
-I read romance in general not specifically bl
-I am a minor but I'm not a child

Again. I'm neutral about this topic. So if yaoi does sexualize gay people then tell me and explain how it's different from gay porn on phub or any other porn site.