What's wrong with the yaoi community?

I've been seeing some of these tik toks, and been thinking about how they generalize gay men into two categories: top and bottom. Also, many people obsess over yaoi and dont seem to differentiate bw reality and fiction. I was wondering what other problems are there either in yaoi or in the yaoi community.
Love,
Skinny pp (๑•ㅂ•)و✧