Yes. It's kinda sick, I know and I've felt guilty about it over and over but hear me out. I've read about why women have rape fantasies and apparently it's more of being sexually open (not feeling guilty about having sexual desires or fantasies) and feeling sexually desirable (they drive men crazy; they just need to have her, even by force). And, fantasizing about something doesn't necessarily mean you want it to come true.
So, I think that romanticizing rape in yaoi is not wrong, per se, as long as we all agree that yaoi is an outlet for our erotic (or maybe just fluffy) fantasies that we, by no means, support to happen in real life. But I mean, that's just me.
((But fuck Hikaru from Korosu Hohou. Haruki-san don't deserve to be broken like that.))
