Should I be ashamed?

Well you see, I'm pretty open about my kinks and fetishes and stuff with some of my close friends but this one time I told one of my friends and she told me that "I should be ashamed of them, and never talk about them. I should NEVER ask a man to do things like that" Now your thinking "Bms or s and m" But it was just teasing, Foreplay, stuff like that. Should I be ashamed? If you SO asked you to do that, would you?