admiration is furthest from understanding

y'all ever had an experience when somebody try to force you to fit their expectations?
or have you also experienced obsession before when you don't see someone for who they really are?

so in my case, sometimes i have admired people too much and put them on a pedestal whilst being mean to myself which is so bad cuz i get too insecure, and can also make the other person feel uncomfy too. i dont recommend it, because then i realized too late that said person is every bit as human as me. and let them mistreat me too ;; its just all around bad vibes on both sides.