Do you think it's homophobic to like BL but not GL?
I'm not sure if I got gaslighted or what, but I had this convo with an internet friend, they were asking for a romance recommendation, and I did gave it to them, a GL story specifically.
Then like 5mins later they asked for something different because they didn't like the plot (?) Despite me recommending them the story because it had their fav trope and dynamic, and the plot was similar to the story she was recently obsessed. Well I shrugged it of not thinking much, but since right now my interest lies in GL, I continued to recommend her some.
Then she straight up told me to recommend her other things that wasn't GL, and that got me confused cuz she read BL (that's how we even got close) that's why I thought she wouldn't have a problem with my recs and that she just didn't genuinely like the plot. Then she proceeded to tell me it was because it made her feel uncomfortable and GL stories felt forced or unnatural. So I told her that was Homophobic thought, then she denied it and said she read BL which was Homosexual (that if she was homophobic she wouldn't be reading it.), that it's not like she has actual issues with wlw couple irl nor does she hate them or call them name, and she was "friends" with me who was bi.
So I'm not sure what to think.
Liking Bl or GL is just a preference. Everyone has their own taste but its not homophobic to like one than the other
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27 10,2023
I wonder if she found bl unforced and natural, and literally how?? You can still be homophobic and like BL, Fetishism maybe?
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27 10,2023
TLDR: maybe she is, maybe she isn't, try asking her if she would've read the story or considered the romance to be "forced/unnatural" if it was a BL instead of a GL.
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First of all, I always see people say things like "I read x so I can't be against x" or "I ha......
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27 10,2023
honestly, i thinks it's way she worded it that made it sound crazier than it actually is. it definitely had some hate spewed into it but i think your friend is just fetishizing BL. (i'm not downplaying the fact that that's wrong!!! it's just better than being homophobic.) she definitely could've just said "i'd rather read bl over gl" or "i'm not in......
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27 10,2023
not homophobic to read or prefer one over the other to each their own yknow but i believe this specifically is weird bc of how she worded it ''unnatural'' and ''forced''. Personally i read more bl than gl (stil l read both tho) for no particular reason
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27 10,2023
It's not homophobic to like BL but not GL, ultimately they are just works of fiction and what really matters is how she treats actual LGBT people. Ultimately when it comes to romance, especially BL and GL, a lot of people read these stories because there's a sense of attraction to the characters. That's why so many straight women will read stuff be......
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27 10,2023
I get having your own reading preferences and maybe she just worded her whole statement very poorly but based on this alone, your friend sounds like she has a BL fetish and has a biased against lesbians or just women loving women in general particularly talking about how she said that GL seems unnatural also the justification that she said at the e......
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27 10,2023
liking BL/GL or not is not at all indicative of being homophobic/not homophobic. it's just stories. it's not representative of real-life same-sex relationships or people, and what actually matters is how real people are treated.
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27 10,2023
I don't think she's really homophobic per se but it does seem like she just fetishizes gay men
If you recommended her a good story with tropes and characters she usually enjoys but she doesn't want to read it because she's uncomfortable with girls having a relationship... yeah it's just fetishizing and she probably doesn't enjoy BL just for the sto......
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27 10,2023
i feel like i've seen people on here say the opposite -- that they enjoy GL but not BL because most of BL "uses the same tropes" "only has s/a" "is boring and forced" etc etc, which is a broad generalization and i feel like i never see the same kind of discussions being had about that. but yet it's still a valid opinion and preference.
is it homop......
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27 10,2023
