Why are Weird BLs getting so much popularity??

I've been wondering this for a while because it seems that more and more abusive BL stories are getting green-lit and getting more traction than ones with healthy and realistic relationships. I'm just trying to figure out what in the hell is going on.
Please don't give me the corny stuff like "Good thing it's fictional!" or "Fiction is fiction" It has been proven that fiction can affect the psyche no matter who you are and how good one thinks they are at differentiating the two.
I'm just really worried about the people who defend the elements of the story that are supposed to be the negatives. Like how people STILL think that Killing Stalking is a bl after the creator said it wasn't, it was about sick people.
This is what concerns me so much about the modern state of BL, people taking elements of abuse as expressions of love.
Am I going crazy or what?