Fushijos?? (Idk how to spell)

Okay so ive thought about this for awhile and I just genuinely dont understand that some of these people are real. Like the ones which are so intrusive in gay men’s activities?

Like I read BL, I enjoy it. But im not obsessed to the point of having fantasies about people in my life being together.
I have gay friends but to me, Bl is different from reality.
One is fiction, the other isnt.
How do you manage to delude yourself to want to ask these men every part of their love lives. Like why would you ask about their positions or just their sex life in general, I would never ask my straight or lesbian / Bi friends that so I just don’t understand?

This was kinda just a word vomit in itself so idk if it makes any sense lol