Tutor is upset cause I won’t study with him alone for safety!?
So my tutor and I was discussing about what time he wil come to my home to tutor me. I told him he can come at 9-10 am. Then I was talking to myself that my dad is gonna be home at that time so it’s ok. Then he asked me why cant he can tutor me if I'm alone. I told him for safety reason. Then he got really upset. I told him I didn’t mean it like that and said I'm sorry if it hurt his feelings. Then he was silent for a long time. ( He is very talkative and It was super akward) Then he told me I think too negatively and he was hurt. Then he was going on about how long we know each other. I said he taught me for like 2 years.. He said It’s the way I said it I was too straight forward. It’s kinda weird because like I'm a teenage girl so it’s obvious that a person who is not related to me can't enter the house when I'm home alone.. It is a ridiculous question why he can't tutor me when I'm alone. Then he gets upset when I tell him it’s for safety. And tells me I'm too negative. Like no I'm not.. I already experienced men being absolute creeps.. Whould you be upset if you were in my tutor's place? I don’t get what I did wrong, he looked really sad when he left so..
I am a girl too , so I don't trust anyone easily. But despite that we should know that guys are different as well . Not all of them are molesters or rapist . I think guys too wouldn't want to be put in the same box as those creeps. Come on if someone told me "I DON'T FEEL SAFE AROUND U " i Will be feel hurt as well . That's basically attack on my c...... 1 reply
dude.... what is he an immature child?? he's acting childish tbrh and he needs to get his shit straight whatever u said or did is right its for ur own safety so yes prioritise ur safety over others feelings reply
Man u deleted my cmt? You guys really are happy with your own one sided thoughts, aren't you? Have fun then. And girl, just change ur tutor to a woman. Then, u will no longer need to scare and he doesn't need to be insulted and hurt his pride as a teacher. 8 reply
you did the right thing do not worry. Even if he's been teaching you for 2 years you can just never hang ur safety and security on the line because he appeared to not have ill intentions so far. honestly i think as a tutor he should also understand his position. looking at his reaction i would say not to get too close to him and NEVER be alone with...... reply
Ugh, get rid of him!!! No one is allowed to make you feel bad for being safe and if he's seriously that butthurt about that, that's his problem. I would doubt his intentions even more. A tutor is a hired professional only there to help you learn, not a buddy to hang out with or a babysitter, so many tutors even encourage a parent to be present or a...... reply