men and women animosity toward each other

I was watching a YouTube video about a woman who had a podcast with three or more men. This woman ended up making some really racist, misogynistic comments about Black women, and the YouTuber I was watching criticized her, calling her a 'pick-me.' I agreed with that YouTuber until they said, 'Men can't be friends with women' and proceeded to describe men as predators. I was left wondering, why? I get that men can be problematic, but distancing ourselves, refusing to talk to each other, and villainizing one another isn't the answer. The world will stay as toxic as it is, and nothing will change. The world is dark and cruel to everyone—the least we can do is try to understand each other.
I've been criticized multiple times for sharing these views, and people have told me I only feel this way because I haven’t had trauma with men. But actually, 80% of my trauma has been caused by men: I was sexually harassed, assaulted as a child, stalked, and treated like trash by men. But distancing ourselves from each other is still not the answer. I'm not saying you should befriend people who treat you poorly, but there are many decent men out there. Calling all men 'predators' simply because they’re men is dehumanizing and unfair.
I wish both heterosexual women and men could see each other as human beings, not just as sex objects or romantic prospects. Why can’t people see the potential in building platonic relationships? It seems like whenever people talk about each other, it always has to be in a romantic or sexual context.
Anyway, I'm interested in your opinion on this if you don’t mind sharing.