Kind of Rant. Ive been coming to terms with the fact that I am lesbian, but the hardest part is owning it, my friends are accepting of the lqbtq community but theres always a weird vibe with them. Whenever we meet someone new, they will out me immediately to that person. I feel like having a breakdown at some point because I feel people just see my sexuality, and not me as a person. I just want to be normal, not in the sense that I want to be straight, I just want my sexuality to be normalized, why is it such a big deal?
Hello fellow queer
I gotta say that’s kind of a shit thing that your friends are doing to you. Even if you’re casual about your sexuality, coming out should be on your terms and your terms alone. Your friends shouldn’t be just saying anything along the lines of “hey this is my friend and they’re a queer” because not only is that weird...... reply
seems like your friends are unknowingly making you feel bad. whatever their reasons may be, if you're not comfortable with it, then it's not okay that they keep doing this.
try talking to them and telling them you don't want yourself to be outed to every person you've just met. try explaining it from your point of view, hopefully they'll understan...... reply
I’m assuming you’re still in high school or below. Kids at that age (and some people older,) tend to misunderstand the weight of sexuality, I think. It’s not your identity at all. You’re a whole person +you like women sometimes, not just “queer” or “a lesbian.” I’d strongly recommend telling your friends directly that you’re unc...... reply
I can't say much because I don't know your friends nor have I met them
For starters if this is something that trueoy makes you feel uncomfortable in any format then talk to your friends about it, express how it makes you feel and If they can't all respect that then simply drop them and don't waste anymore time on them because in the long run it wo...... reply