i don't know if i'm aro ace or if I'm just giving up because unconciously I believe I am unloveable and I wanna save myself the heartache when i'm inevitably abandoned by all the things I thought I loved.
If you feel the label fits then use it, it's not that serious. You can change your mind later (or not) and that's totally fine. I'm giving you permission :)
Only people who will have a problem with it are assholes anyway, you do you reply