any aro/ace in the chat?

I wanna know how did you guys KNOW? Like really know?

i know this is a common experience for many lgbtq+ people while on a self-discovery journey that they have a phase where they think they are aro/ace because theyre very confused about themselves. I just wanna know how and what made you completely sure you didnt want romantic/sexual attraction.

i have been in (very short) relationships and im extremely confused by myself cause i love the concept of a partner, but when i actually get to be with one (for context im a girl and ive dated two girls), idk if im self sabotaging or i genuinely cant tell the difference between romantic or platonic feelings.
or because of societal pressure of 'you HAVE to be with someone' I'm not sure if im forcing myself to be with someone for the sake of being with someone. or do i have to wait for 'the one'.

...help (￣∇￣")

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Saccharine 09 03,2025

I hate labels I might be asexual but I don’t really know and I'm constantly doubting myself. I love the concept of love and I would like a family of my own in the future but I can't really picture myself being in a relationship with someone. In my country there is a lot of pressure on women to get married like its their only life purpose.But I ...... 1 reply

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lemon 09 03,2025

I actually randomly came over Jaiden's Animation video about it on Youtube and it just clicked. I do not have such feelings for anyone most of the time. I did question it for a bit, but I realized that it does describe generally my experience. I also decided that I don't really care about labeling exactly what this is for me. If I ever feel comfo...... reply

09 03,2025

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yoi s2 when 09 03,2025

I discovered that I was aroace around 2020-2021. The common reasons; I don't want sexual relationships, js that I don't like to have sex. I could never imagine myself having a sexual experience, the mere thought of it made me disgusted. That's how I knew I was ace. I figured out that I was aromantic, since, ever since I was young, I never really h...... 1 reply

09 03,2025

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moonpie 10 03,2025

I'm an older person, but when I was younger I didn't even know that not getting married or having kids was an option, it's just kind of what people do, so I went with the flow. I felt like in my relationships I didn't really feel what I was supposed to, but more like my satisfaction came from the validation of having someone think I was special and...... 1 reply

10 03,2025

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lemonsauce 09 03,2025

its giving cupioromantic ++ things like "you just need wait for the one" or "you just need to experience it first" are all bullshit to regurgitate what someone else has said before: you dont actually need to experience something for yourself to know what you do and dont like. like, you dont need to actually date a man to know you dont wanna date a...... 1 reply

09 03,2025

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CMYep 10 03,2025

I'm pretty sure I'm somewhere in the ace spectrum, I just say I'm ace for brevity and because, like, it's not not true. I used to think I was pansexual since the definition of "not caring about someone's gender when it comes to attraction" really resonated with me. It was much much later that I realized I wasn't feeling any type of sexual attractio...... reply

10 03,2025

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Scout 10 03,2025

i thought my friends were joking when they'd talk about finding people sexy... like i thought that was just the thing you said and not an actual feeling of desire. then i got into a relationship with a girl and genuinely loved her romantically. it was a different love from even my closest friends but not once did i want to have sex with her. people...... reply

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LGtfo 10 03,2025

As you said, I liked the concept of having a partner but when I had one for a very short time it felt very wrong. Also I’ve never been sexually attracted to anyone like ever. reply

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MaruMaru 10 03,2025

Gay Aro dude here. It's not as black and white as a lot of people really paint it out to be. I came to the realisation after meeting an Aro friend. She would always complain about how a lot of alloromantic people struggle to get the concepts of aromanticism and the fact it's a spectrum in the first place, especially if you're aromantic and still ...... reply

10 03,2025

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Azure↡Ren 09 03,2025

Idk how to word this but I have trouble, expressing my love to someone or something, since I was younger, due to my past experience's, through my parents (I have never been in a relationship before, because of thus reason). They also have a really toxic relationship which made me doubt myself, because like what if I mistreat my partner? Without kno...... 1 reply

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