Okay, so it's still about dating, but not the
'lovey-dovey', or a sweetly sweet type. I get
bored in relationships really easily, like they
have a built-in end date. I don't even know if
that's supposed to be funny. (ヽ`Д´)ﾉ
Every relationship I've been in hasn't lasted
more than two months. I'm not sure if it's just
infatuation or what. And sometimes, I change
my personality just to get someone to like me,
even if it's not who I really am. But then, after
about four weeks, I want to end the relationship.
I don't want to hurt them, but I can't understand
why I consistently experience these emotions.
There are times when I genuinely believe
someone is 'the one,' only to be proven wrong.
A friend of mine accused me of being a 'player,'
and criticized me for hurting my ex, Her words
deeply impacted me, leading me to avoid dating
altogether. I realized I no longer trusted myself
in relationships. Of course, I can't blame her for
what she said, and we're still friends.
Therefore, if you have any advice or comments
regarding this situation, I welcome them,
whether positive or negative.
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I don’t know if you had came to know those people recently or something.
But, in case you were not, maybe you just felt engaged during the early period?
I sort of feel exited when I start to get to know a new person.
And from an outsider point of view, they might think I fell in love of something.
But truly, I just wait, maybe a month or two to see if I’m still interested. Starting as friends and keeping contact. And that would be it.
It’s not easy. And I can’t tell how I feel myself. So…all I can do is to suggest you to not rush into relationship, take your time to study the situation better, to observe and learn what king of bond they are more into.
Different kind of people view these relationships in different way, some have a more idealized/romanticized view of it, and that’s not for everyone.
Despite some might be yearning for that standard, a more rational and pessimistic side disagrees, it’s easier to find someone that view it the same way.
Less the other gets disappointed and say stuff like “you don’t love me as much as I love you. Yada yada yada…”
U r totally right about that initial
rush being easily mistaken for
something deeper. Taking that
time to observe and align on
expectations is key. Thanks for
sharing your perspective—it really
helped me step back and think
about it more clearly. Sorry for late
response, but I really do appreciate
this, for now I avoid getting involved
for those kind of unsure feelings,
I am now focusing on myself and
on my work. ^_^ I actually already
read your comment a while a go,
it's just happen that I have no time
to response., Thank u again.
Honestly...
I'm kinda the same way so i don't know what to tell you.
Wouldn't say you're a player or like hurting people though.
Maybe you're just exhausted when your true self comes out and they reject that or something.
People come and go that's just how relationships work in general.
Google it you might find a reddit post or something with more helpful replies.
Mangago isn't really the place to ask these questions.
It's actually really comforting to hear
that I'm not the only one who feels this way. I definitely don't want to
hurt anyone, so that means a lot. Honestly, just hearing that you don't
think I'm a "player" is a huge relief.
The thought that I might just get
exhausted when my true self comes
out is actually a very deep take.
Maybe I'm just putting on an act in
the beginning and run out of steam
when things get real. I'll definitely be
thinking about that. I'll take your
advice and try searching on Reddit!
Sorry for late response, I really do appreciate this. I am now focusing
on myself and on my work. I actually
already read your comment a while a
go, it's just happen that I have no
time to response. Thank u again. :3