Should I cut ties with my family in the future?
I’ve been thinking about this and I just need a tiny push to fully confirm my decision.
My sister and I had a huge argument one day, and during this argument, she pointed out every flaw and every insecurity I have.
She did apologize after crashing the fuck out on me while crying her eyes out for god knows what. The reason for the argument? I was teasing her and joking with her but she somehow took that personal.
Personally, this made me feel extra insecure as its my sibling confronting me about it. I’ve been ignoring and avoiding her ever since the argument, which was in the beginning of 2025.
She’s also been “extra nice” to me after this argument as I think she knows I’m avoiding her. My dad even asked if me and my sister were best friends, as a way to think we are on good terms, and I always avoid that question.
She is always loud as well, blasting music or watching Netflix with full volume on her tv, she never lets me have a good night sleep even after I verbally complained about it to my mom. I bet my mom is tired of telling her to shut up for me.
She is moving to college to go california and I now have the chance to fully cut her out of my life. Should I do it?
I don't think it's that deep tbh. I'm all for cutting ties with ur family if they're toxic or abusive but this just feels like a situation of poor communication skills and anger issues. What she did was wrong, yes. But also I don't think this is smth worth cutting ur sister out of ur life FOREVER.
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gang is this not average sibling behaviour?
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This is hard to judge given we don't know what both of you actually said and how the tone was.
In general tho: If your family hurts you and you find it unbearable, you are fully entitled to going full estrangement. But it depends on you.
I would suggest therapy to work this out. Or at least talking with her, calmly. Asking randos online who tend t......
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If siblings cut each other off after every huge argument i don't think anyone would be in touch w their family anymore Ig it could depend on the context of the argument but ifl it's worth giving her a chance. I'm saying this as someone who lost their sibling at a young age I envy those who still get to have that bond so my answer might be biased. T......
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Weaponizing your weakness against you for their favor isn't something someone that loves you or has the maturity to have a proper argument would do. Take that as you will.
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Honestly, from what I get it, she doesn't respect you but she feels guilty about saying things to you. But I also have a question from you, have you ever told her to not be loud or set boundaries between you and her? Because most people forget about it and then feel like the person in front isn't respecting them. If you have and she didn't seem to ......
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Hmmm I also have siblings and I understand it can be REALLYYYY hard but I can't say for sure yk. If she's really harmful to your mental health all the time then I would say yes. I'm all for cutting off family but I feel this may be a situation you could talk out. I really can't say too much since this is only one instance you're giving me to go off......
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Hmm.. no? Don’t throw stones from a glass house and a loud TV is not a mature reason to cut someone off. It would be better to just be (or act) civil because at the end of the day your family !!
(Of course unless what she said was EXTREMELY crossing the line, I would talk to your parents as to why they are not defending you)
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yeah, do it. She deserves better! (๑•̀ㅂ•́)و✧
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