I’m still young, yet my parents are in their 50’s/60’s and idk what to do abt it
I really want to please my parents, whether it is academically or in life. Yet, when I think about it, it’s nearly impossible to do so.
I’m still young, still haven’t graduated yet. My parents, who are in their 50-60s are getting near to their bodies aching and fatigue occurring. The USA’s life expectancy is rather low, coming at a 74.8, but that’s unfortunately the average.
I’ve never had the thought of marriage, or a boyfriend in general. My last ex messed me up emotionally and physically, which made me to only focused on my academics.
I want to give my parents happiness in life. But I feel like giving them a grandchild is what will impact them the most. I’m not even sure if they’ll be alive when I have a grandchild. I also don’t want a pregnancy where I’m not financially stable.
I’ve been thinking abt this situation a lot. I’m not sure what to do or how life is going to be once my parents pass away.
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hey, my situation is similar (even though i'm postgrad and a working adult atm). my parents had me very late, i'm 23 this year, my dad is in his seventies, mom sixties. i have always felt like i'm disappointing them (due to various reasons, one of them being a lesbian & not wanting kids), but:
firstly, no one says they will die as soon as they hit 74. secondly, i know it’s such a hard topic for many people (parents), but it’s YOUR life and even though you want to give them happiness, you have to prioritize your OWN. you can make them proud by accomplishing so many other things then giving them grandchildren. they may be sad abt it, but if they love you, they will (have to) understand. maybe it's not all that black-and-white.
and actually, bet they are very proud and happy because of your accomplishments already.
*than, damn
My dad was in his 60s when I was a teen and he died when I was 20. Honestly, just focus on what you can do now and try not to do things you'd regret
A lot of things are out of control but let's try to make the most of what time we have with them. Worrying about not having kids
*is stealing precious time that you could be spending with them or on yourself
Get the hell out here minor
ok age police
great to write ts under a post like this one
I can guarantee at least 30% of the sites users are underage
Why would you say this under a post about someone being sad about their age?? That's just plain insensitive
Who the hell said I was a minor? If you think me saying “still haven’t graduated yet” justifies my age than I just think you’re plain slow/stupid since it could mean a bunch of things.
No because I get you. If decide to have at the age my mom had me, she would already reaching her 70s. It’s scary to think when I'm their age will the still be around. I’m still quit young and it’s, also put pressure as me as the eldest child. How would I go on ?
Maybe focus on your studies for now and a financially stability, something stable enough and you can also choose to adopt if you don't want a pregnancy, don't force yourself into a relationship when you're not emotionally ready for it yet.
(But you also don't have to take the words of a stranger too seriously if u don't want to. Choose what u think is best for yourself)
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