I don't have real friends
Highschool has slowly started becoming unbearable. I'm only writing this bcs i have no one to share it with (again, no real friends). I do have "friends" but they're not people that would look out for me, come sit with me and talk to me, and hang out with me. These are all people I reach out to just so I won't feel lonely. Going from having friends to this point feels very depressing. It also feels like they're taking advantage of me bcs I've gotten quieter and it's just easy to take advantage of a quiet person. Nobody really knows me or tries to. And to be honest, i don't want to be friends with people like this either. Thats what I tell myself when I get home and feel better for a couple of minutes, until I go back in school and the reality of the moment hits me, that I'm all alone. I don't have much to talk abt either. Maybe I'm just boring which is why people don't want to hang out with me. All they do is gossip and I have no interest in that. I just want people who understand me. I wish I could be ok with the loneliness and not care abt what other people thought of me.
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Bro this is so real like genuinely ik how depressing and how lonely this feels, like nobody rlly “likes” u but they do talk to u, I’m a rising senior as of now but I would love to be friends w u
Yeah I'd love that
I remember in high school the only classmate that was my friend was fucking toxic, but I didn't want to be alone, so I didn't stop to hang out with her
I was in highschool a couple yrs ago and I had very similar thoughts and experiences that you have. Coming from someone who was concerningly alone all the time (lmfao my counselors/teachers were stressed abt me) It’s unbearable to feel like this, borderline suffocating. I’m sorry that your highschool experience is like this but I believe you can salvage it. I think you should try and make other friends, and I know it’s easier said than done but truly. Try your hardest to be apart of other communities, clubs, school or neighborhood events, get a job and meet people through that, literally anything else.step out of your comfort zone. There’s so many other ways to meet people than just a school friend that doesn’t even think to text you after school is over. Your Highschool experience isn’t going to be perfect and you shouldn’t expect it to but please try and make the most of it. I’m sure you’re a great person to be around, you just haven’t found the right person to appreciate you. One day you’ll find someone who’s excited to be around you, who’ll call you first, who’d come over your house and talk abt your favorite things with you. Everyone deserves that and so do you. I promise you will persevere. I really hope you feel better, I understand your feelings better than most.
I appreciate the advice yeah I've alrd tried that, going around talking to people and all. It's not hard for me to do it but people just don't stick around. I'm just a backup friend. I think I'm "friends" with pretty much everyone, the issue is no one wants to stick around tho and if i don't approach them then I'll be left out all by myself. I can only reach out to people so many times, I mean I've been doing it for 2 years now and after realising that it's always ever only me i kind of got tired of it.
Speaking as someone in their mid 20s, high school sucked. It was terrible and I am grateful I don’t ever need to go back every day I’m alive.
But that’s just a short section of your life. It feels like forever, because it sucks, but it’s still so short in the long run. Best thing to do is to grit your teeth and try to get as much out of it as you can. Life gets better once you’re out of high school and doing basically anything else, be it work or post secondary education or whatever. Your world gets so much bigger and it’s amazing. So take advantage of whatever opportunities you can get while you’re in high school, learn skills, try new things, reinvent yourself as many times as you want because now is when you have the time and despite all the gossip, everyone is so focused on themselves that it barely matters at all.
There is merit in learning some gossip and how to utilize it (workplace politics are no joke and it’s fundamentally a skill for dealing with people), but don’t worry about it too much. Most of what happens in high school won’t even be much more than a faint, blurry memories in 10 years, that much I promise you.
Squeeze whatever you can out of these years. Don’t let them bleed you dry without taking just as much in return. You deserve that much, at least
Thank you, this made me feel better of what's to come. I hope this chapter ends quick.
Same. I talk to people, but when i'm not in school they only reach out for work or group projects. I'm just a backup if their friends aren't there. When she talks about some stuff like shows or some girl's nudes getting leaked or who broke p with who, I really just cant wait for them to stop talking. But I have to laugh and pretend like I give a shit because sitting alone and reading a book so people think your busy is much better. I I dont want it to be like this, but I hate the idea of getting to know someone too.
Wow it's like u described me i don't know anybody around here who thinks like that so it makes me feel better about myself, thanks. I don't get what's so interesting in gossip either. I'd totally be a loner and be fine with it if I didn't cares so much about what people thought of me
FR gossip is exhausting. I don't know anything about any celebrity, i don't even know them by their names. People are just exhausting, not all, but most. Especially extraverts that dont know when its time to stop.
That's so real. Esp the thing abt celebrities and shows. No I don't know who that is, no idk that reference, no idk that scandal. I'm just kind of doing my own thing. Which grade are u in?