Need advice pls read (Friendship related)
So I have a friend that ghosted me bc of their personal reasons (even I don't know what exactly prompted them to) but we were super duper close, as in the type of close where we could tell what each other would say without speaking, looking at each other is enough to say a million gossips etc. I truly valued them and loved them (as a friend) so much, so it broke me when all of it happened, and I didn't even get a reason why. Its beed 6 months. I found out that they ghosted me on their bday when they ignored my art gift and well wishes (though we stopped talking during February I didn't realize it was her ghosting me bc I was also busy) so I didn't get to give them the gift I prepared which was:
A handwritten letter
Collage photos of us
Pins of their fav characters with my art
Printed image of the art of them I made
ALST figure
Haikaveh rings (we planned to cosduo them)
We had so many cosduos planned and I can't imagine cosplaying those characters without them now, because I made a promise. Honestly they were the most in sync friend I've ever had, and even now that I've been hurt and ghosted by them for the 3rd time (this time the permanence is devastating) which dealt a huge blow to my mental health, I still can't seem to let them go and accept that fact standing still.
So my question is should I ask a mutual friend a favor to give the gift to them? If all goes well there's a chance they might talk to me, if it goes awry then maybe I'll get some closure. Thanks for reading I really appreciate it.
Am I witnessing doomed Yuri rn...bro the amount of longing in your words is crazy and the thought put in those gifts clearly shows that u care abt tht person ALOT like, it's literally bordering love LOVE. And HAIKAVEH COSDUO??? WITH RINGS???? And those expensive ass ALST figurines??? GIRLLL...DONT END UP LIKE MIZISUA DO YOUR BEST I WISH YOU THE BES......
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04 07,2025
Oh dear is this the same person from before? :(
If it gives you closure in my opinion you should send it. It'll hurt you more if you keep seeing the gifts you planned to give them because it will just keep reminding you of that person. I hope you two make up goodluck bb!!
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04 07,2025
I WAS READING SO PEACEFULLY UNTIL WE GOT TO THE GIFT PART, ALST FIGURES, HAIKAVEH RINGS, CUSTOM ART?? DO YOU WANNA BE MY FRIEND INSTEAD?? But seriously, does this friend reciprocate the same attention and affection you shower them? If not then maybe they're not worth chasing. But if they do, then I hope you find out the reason why they left, even i......
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04 07,2025
As someone who went thru a similar experience, don't ask a friend to gift it... It could just make everything worse. I tried to do the same thing and it came as harassment to them. If they don't want to talk to you, sorry but we should respect it. That's how you actually show you respect them.
Sometimes, it's not what you did or how much you love ......
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04 07,2025