Hi! Anyone knows how to move on from being disrespected by someone?
I, (20) gave my virginity to an old classmate who I recently rekindled with but unfortunately.... He changed once he got it from me.
I feel like I'm going insane because I live in a country where virginity is important (PH) and he was my first on everything (kisses, dates etc.). I usually have my guard up and wouldn't have gone this far with anyone but we met when I was in my lowest so maybe... I was just desperate to feel wanted and loved to the point I gaslit myself into liking him and ignoring the signs. (He's not rlly my type haha)
So um... Not only did I lose my precious firsts, I also gave it to some chopped lying mf and it wasnt even good.
How do I recover from being done so terribly like this
(P.S: My replies to your comments might take a while because I'm posting this on my throwaway acc. My friends follow me on my main and I dont want them to know that a baddie like me who "gives 0 fucks about irl men" got done this badly.)
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Girl, first of all, don’t beat yourself up. You’re not crazy for feeling this way...you cared, you trusted him, and he didn’t treat you right. That’s on him, not you. Just because you gave him your firsts doesn’t mean you’re any less valuable or special. Your worth isn’t tied to that, even if people around you act like it is. Think of it like this, you learned something about yourself and about the type of guy you don’t want. It sucks, but it’s also teaching you to recognize red flags faster next time. You didn’t lose anything...you grew. right now, it’s about healing and not letting him live rent-free in your head. If you can, talk it out with people you trust or write it down just to get those emotions out.focus back on you, do the things that make you feel happy and confident again. the right person will never make you question your worth. They’ll respect you, love you, and treat you like you deserve. He’s just proof of what you don’t need in your life.
I'd honestly consider it getting the shorter end of a stick, its difficult but cut your losses and move on early , they'll get their karma in due time and even if they don't it's ok. Because we're only human we make mistakes and try our best to carry on so do so, you'll find out you healed on a random Thursday when you're struggling to remember their last name.
If you didn’t like your romantic/sexual firsts, you don’t have to place too much importance on them. There’s so much more to life and who you chose to have sex with doesn’t detract from your value. Focus on other things, like your hobbies, friends, and goals. There’s plenty of fish in the sea and I’m sure you’ll create plenty of great memories with someone else when the time is right. You’re under no obligation to interact with him again so if I were you I’d just try my best to forget about it and distract myself with what I enjoy. Good luck and I hope you feel better ヾ(❀╹◡╹)ﾉ~
Bro I know it feels like a big deal, but better guys will come, dont pressure yourself nor do things you’re not comfortable with to please anyone, take your time and be honest with yourself and your future pair next time.
He is an asshole and you can always do better, some men are just pigs and unfortunetely you met one of those, if youre still dating break up, block him everywhere and just ignore his ass, if he ever says anything rude or talks about you being with him just say he was so mid and tiny that you are embarrased of ever dating him