if your s/o died, can you move on and love someone else?

i've been with my spouse for almost 20 years. we have kids. our entire lives are tangled together. obviously if i lost them i'd be beyond devastated, and i don't think i'd recover. for obvious reasons yes, but also for reasons you wouldn't think. we're getting older. neither of us are in good health to begin with. so we've had this conversation. ou......   reply