May I vent?
I know this is not the best place for this, I really do... But I have nobody and nowhere to go to with this at the moment and I am spiraling real bad...
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My dad just passed away and I am in shambles... I couldn't do anything. It was all too sudden and now I am lost at what to do.... Idk shit about funerals or how we're gonna handle all de documents and stuff he was taking care of. I am extremely overwhelmed and I was already at the lowest point before this and now I feel like this is the last straw. No one else seems reliable either or has any idea now to handle things... We aren't that close with extended family either... It's just I, my sister and my mom. I want want to disappear
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I’m soo sorry this happened to you I’m holding you in my prayers and sending love to you. Trust me you can overcome this it’s hard to lose someone and trust me I know but please be strong you are strong
Your dad leaves a strong memory to yourself. Although you feel guilt and depression, your dad will always stay with you, memories of him flow throughout your mind from the life you had with him. Disappearing means disappearing with memories of your father and the love you have of your father. Dont think like that again, it shames him of being a terrible person to him when you know he wasnt. He wants you to continue living with a path ahead, leaving away the fruitless and bitter feelings you theses days. Continue looking forward to honor your father as he rests in peace.
Are you in the US? What county and state are you in? There are helplines and free or low cost legal help. Breathe. Take it slow. This can help as a guide: https://www.aarp.org/family-relationships/when-loved-one-dies-checklist/
I am not. I'm in Europe. In theory, I kinda know the gist of what should be done, but it's just too much right now I just can't...i physically and mentally can't do s thing. I'm jusy paralyzed and overwhelmed and terrified of the future.
Thank you very much for your comment and trying to help
Are you in the US? What county and state are you in? There are helplines and free or low cost legal help. Breathe.
I'm so sorry man, I truly am. Losing someone like that when you're already feeling like hell must be horrible. I hope you find the strength to keep on going, even though it's the hardest thing ro even try right now. I'm glad you found the courage to talk about this, even with strangers online. Surprisingly, sometimes strangers are the easiest to talk to. So my messages are open if you or anyone else ever needs to vent. Wishing you the best, and again, my deepest condolences.
I want to cry rn. Please, I can feel ur pain there is nothing but words I can give to you but please try to stay calm ur gonna see ur dad one last time at the funeral so PLEASE stay calm and clear ur mind just let ur mom and family plan everything out..is what I really wanna say but u have every right to cry so please let out ur pain, loosing one of ur most trusted and loved person is literally the absolute worst the pain is uncontrollable so just let everything out. From the deepest part in my heart, I hope ur dad rest in peace and i'm sure he will ALWAYs be with you and ur family even though u can't see him just know he is there.
I’m so sorry that happened. Losing someone can be so overwhelming. Sadly this is a part of life no one is prepared for. I hope that you are able to get through these rough times in your life. It’ll get better
I'm sorry for your loss, condolences.
I was also in a similar position before and honestly, it's hard. I don't know if I can tell you everything's gonna be ok right away since it took years for my immediate family to heal, and even now we're still not completely okay especially financially. I hope you guys are doing well in that department though.
I suggest taking time to reflect. Don't just distract yourself via outside noise, think within yourself as well. Sort out the feelings inside you, because the more it gets tangled and unheard over time, the harder it is to unravel later on.
Reach out to people, don't shut yourself in, because the more you isolate yourself the more detached you'll feel from everything else and it can seriously fuck up your outlook in life, take it from me.
I hope you and your family stays strong through this, you can do this Matteuzzo sending hugs and support your way (╯︵╰)
Thank you for your kind words. I actually smiled when I saw my fuckass username at the end xD
Im sorry about your family too. We're also not doing well financially. I earn minimum wage and my mom's work situation is kinda shitty too. Sister works too, but doesn't make that much either. It'll be hard... My family wasn't that tight either and idk how everything is going to go...i am afraid for how my mom is gonna fare and idk... I feel like I should get my shit together and figure life out so I can help my family too and be reliable but I am just so unwell and frozen in place, completely overwhelmed... And now part of my family is gone and it feels like everything is just going to get worse while I stand paralysed, just watching
Idk...i am rambling... My mind is going everywhere and nowhere at once right now.
I hope it'll be ok somehow.. But I dunno...i don't really see a light at the end of the tunnel now. I'm glad you say you and family got through somehow, even if it's still hard. Keep hanging in there too and thank you again for replying