dont loose your grip on reality bc of yaoi

gurls, in my own personal experience, as someone who‘s started consuming a lotta bl since i was 22 years old, after some years and hundreds of stories, you feel like you know (not everything) but a lot more about a homosexual relationship, than a non-bl-reader would.

but since i started roaming gay bars with wonderful queer people, i‘ve got to know so many divas, sisters and dolls and they all proved me wrong. bl is sometimes playing in the real world, but has little substance of it. and because of them and the real life they are living, i had a lot of reflecting to do. oc we know, that those stories are fictional, but we surround ourselves with stories, where:

rape is used as a stylistic device to make a story more dramatic,
the feminine partner is represented child-like or useless (misogyny),
the relationship is build on a power dynamic, where the weaker part is at a high disadvantage,
fetishizing content (portraying gay as being exotic and more exciting, a pure erotic fantasy, rather than a normal, deep connection)

so we all need to raise our standards, bc a good artstyle or the dopamine kick is just not worth it. unless you want more jinx manhwas to come out. BOYCOTT THOSE SHITTY ASS MANHWAS☠

„we can‘t hold hands in public!“ on a typical night out we get 20+ nasty comments from mostly (dl) hetero cis men, sometimes ranging from a little nitpicking to death treats. we always carry pepper spray and something to defend ourselves, because it is that deep. every queer person i know (in my bubble) is participating in activism. have you ever seen someone in a bl advocating for lgbtq rights? in my case, they fly out of the country to get married.

so what i wanna ramble about: it is 100% okay to like a story (ceo stories are a guilty pleasure of mine oof), but, especially for my adolescent readers: we all obviously have a sincere interest in queer relationships, but those stories often don’t come w real empathy or solidarity. it’s a consuming external perspective. so let’s never stop learning, striving to be better. and get real life queer friends to hear their experiences