What do you do when you did or said something and then you feel second-hand embarassment? How do you make that feeling of shame go? Same question when you feel guilt, how do you make that feeling go away?
You say something worse instead.
Oh, you just admitted you like BL?
TELL THEM YOU HAVE A FETISH INSTEAD.
They get distracted.
It's ok.
(I do this)
(It doesn't help) reply