Why do we like BL
Sorry for the long post you guys, but I really needed some insights from y'all to untangle my own psychology about BL. Maybe you guys can give me your insights as well!
I am trying to put into words why
I like BL. At first, I thought it was wish fulfillment without a woman being in the equation. When I ask women why they enjoy BL, they say they like seeing men express emotions, love and sexuality without women being in the equation. Because women in her media usually take on a weaker role, feminine role, maybe sexual violence against her is shown.
Women consuming BL don't have to deal with that 'ick' feeling of seeing another woman. I thought to myself, okay, maybe I just don't like seeing women in my romances. Maybe I do want wish fulfillment of a romance with only two men. And the point of reading a romance for me is to experience all the romantic emotions without actually doing anything sexual.
But then I look at the stuff I typically like -
Two huge masculine men
Reversible couples
Masculine bottom x Pretty looking top
Theoretically I should like the typical small uke x big top dynamic since that would match my preferences more in real life. I have no desire to dominate a man and would rather be submissive. I wonder why it is I like the stuff I like.
So I'd like you all to share your thoughts so I know how you think.
You don't need to have some sort of psychology analysis, it's just a genre of romance at the end of the day and women or not. You just like it cus it's romance or whatever.
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13 08,2025
Dang....I read some of em and my reason for reading bL is literally different.....from the rest.
So here's why I read bL.
Honestly, I don't get why people hate gays because I mean, they ain't getting into your business what's with you freak? Why you trying to get into their business when they're minding their own business?
So here's the real dea......
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13 08,2025
Is there supposed to be a reason? I just like the romance genre
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13 08,2025
This is actually a good question I never asked myself..
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13 08,2025
This will come across odd and weird because it’s not like really typical but I am a lesbian who likes to read bl, and yk that would look strange since I’m a lady who likes other women but I mostly read bl but the thing is, I really like masculinity and it’s pretty hard for me to to find gl where 1 or at least both of the women are like mascul......
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13 08,2025
Okay, so lemme start yapping.
Uhm, I'm not really a BL fan, but I understand what you're saying and I'd like to share my own opinion towards BL. So, I sometimes read BLs too, and I just like to see LGBT people loving each other.
It's precious to see someone finding out their own sexuality and going down the path of figuring it out, becoming some......
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13 08,2025
It's all about crossing that boundary of gender roles set in society, we can't escape it irl- so BL twists that narrative on its head and presents men- our bane of existence as something that breaks the mould of the norms of gender without us being in the equation. Hence your preference of buff uke pretty top. Buff men irl are known to be dominant ......
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13 08,2025
ngl for me my reasoning being why I like BL is bc the whole BL genre itself (to me) feels like an "secret or forbidden" romance (more so than a straight couple) bc historically homosexual relationship were sooo heavenly looked down upon being either shamed, abused, ridiculed, and socially outcasted. So ALOT of BL tend to sprinkle on that section wh......
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13 08,2025
I don’t actively seek out bl I don’t have a particular preference to it I just read what I find interesting and it happens to be bl sometimes
I do enjoy switch stories though lol
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13 08,2025
i mean..who doesn't like seeing two pretty men in one screen?
the reason why i like bl is because i was taught that same sex cant be together blah blah shit. And after getting introduced to this world of pure heaven it changed my whole mindset which i was so confused of. yeah i jst love it.
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13 08,2025
