I need advice to get confident in just a week
I'm in my 2nd year of college right now and I want to make tons of friends and get along with people because it's so lonely eating by yourself and not doing anything for the past vacation. I think of joining a club but I'm having 2nd thoughts cause I need to pass the exams but if I manage to pass and get in the club, I'm so scared ill have no friends and I'll be akward to everyone in the group. It's an editorial team and I love to draw, specially drawings that has metaphors or conveys meanings and I'm applying for the position of a cartoonist.
This alone is already scary for me and I'm having 2nd thoughts whether or not I take the exams for it. I don't care if I fail but if I pass It'd be rude to back out immediately after joining. I joined mainly to have friends and possibly have a love life because I've been single since birth. I want all of those things people enjoy but I can't because I'm too introverted. It's not that I don't want friends, I want to have them but everytime I'm in a friendgroup I get left out because I don't say anything or is too quiet
But thing is?? I don't know what to say! I don't relate to their things everytime, they talk about school alot and I do too but im dumb at the same time! I get lost in their conversations. So I'm just left out half the time I hang out with them and it doesn't feel fun with me because when I'm alone with others we don't talk at all like we do in groups. I wanna chat too, I want to be social too but for some reason I just can't and lately I'm insecure about how I look.
I didn't use to care about my look until I went to college where everyone was beautiful, it's hard when my department is dominated by women. So many pretty girls meanwhile I'm here trying to be pretty but having shit fashion sense. My face feels sluggish and fat, I feel ugly when I'm around my friends. I feel stupid. So few of them have boyfriends/girlfriends and is or in situationship and I get jealous of that.
I want to to be able to just shine among others and not be their shadow, I want to be able to love someone without fearing of them breaking up with me cus im too boring. I want to be this silly funny friend but I can't and I don't know why.
Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm. I’m going to tell you something I wish someone had told me.
You’re gonna fail. You’re gonna mess up. You’re going to embarrass yourself.
Accept it. Embrace the failure. That’s how it works for everyone.
Now I’m not saying that thinking you’re going to fail. But as corny as it sounds the worst thing you ca......
1 reply
14 08,2025
For that you'd have to identify what is good about yourself, don't say none cus you're obviously good at drawing. That's a positive thing about you to boost your confidence up. Treat yourself the same way you would treat a friend, basically be kinder. You're not ugly or anything I'm sure of that, also about your fashion sense... Everyone's experime......
reply
14 08,2025
as a girlfailure, ima be honest, you have to find people who are like you
+ sometimes the grass looks greener on the other side, having a lot of friends is really not all its set out to be. Focus on quality over quantity.
Anyhoo, youre gonna have to just go for it tbh, cuz youre gonna try, and make a fool out of yourself, and people are gonna look......
1 reply
14 08,2025
I have always been confused as to why people go to college when all they want are friends. You can do that outside of college, you will be making friends your entire life for that matter.
I have said this many times, and I will say it again: You are in college to learn. That should be and always will be your main goal. If you are not in college to......
reply
14 08,2025
I hope that in search of making friends, you DON'T be with wrong people, Be friends with people who care about you. You are your priority. one quality friend is better than 100 fake friends.
And don't be so harsh on yourself, yes I know not everyone takes care of thier looks and clothes, I was the same, I have only one friend and she likes me for ......
reply
14 08,2025
I’m also in my second year of college and I’m basically in the same position as you are. Like I’m convinced we’re the same person lmfao here’s the thing, you can’t become confident within a week, that’s almost impossible. Confidence takes years to gain and find but you should start with not putting yourself down so much. That can only......
reply
14 08,2025
