i dislike this trope

its in A LOT of chinese manhuas and webnovels, that "my-man-is-such-a-sweetheart-i-dont-get-why-everyone-says-hes-scary~" type of couple, is it just a minority of people who dislike it, cause when i see the comments everyone eats it up, like really ????? the fl is always portrayed as strong and cool, but she becomes a ditzy love idiot when her man is with her, her IQ literally DROPS when he's in the room ; mls are also trash, evil fuckers with everyone but their 'little angel', like at least be a decent person ??!! i read one where the ml threatens to GANGRAPE the villainess if she doesn't leave the fl alone, and mind you SHE'S PREGNANT WHEN THAT HAPPENS