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Okay so for most of my life i have considered myself lesbian. i first discovered the term in like 4th grade and was immediately like ''yup. thats me.''
well this last year i got a bf. i thought that i liked him and must've confused my sexual orientation. well fast-forward like 6 months into this relationship and im gonna be honest i dont actually know if i liked him at all. As a friend yes, but romantically? i'm not sure. i mean, he did give me a hickey and it felt good??
this happened in middle school too bc i thought i liked a guy then broke up with him 2 days later bc i realized that was NOT it.
however, i do like yaoi, and find it arousing.. so am i actually gay? i don't do well with irl gay porn though, femboys are cute?
honestly im really confused. even if i got it wrong and i actually AM lesbian i already re-came-out to my family and friends as bisexual and i rlly dont want to have to be like '''ahahah take-backsies, actually.''
guys help im so fucking confused
Not a lesbian but I have a lot of lesbian friends and what you're talking about sounds like a common aspect of compulsory heterosexuality.
"Yes, I would be with a man, but only this very specific unattainable man that is fictional or a celebrity"
When you like men, you like real men who you know in real life. Don't use fiction as a metric for your ......
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25 08,2025
This is why I never try to specifically label my sexuality, while I don’t specifically like men I’m not opposed to them but then I am. I just let myself be attracted to whatever I’m attracted to without the rigidity of labels…it also gets annoying when people make things annoying by trying to ostracize you for switching labels or force you ......
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25 08,2025
Some of these responses are hella rude it’s hard figuring out your sexuality not everyone has it figured out by the time they’re in middle school sometimes it takes people YEARS. You guys are acting like she’s out here labeling herself, and telling everyone she’s a lesbian while being with a man she quite literally said she came out as bise......
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25 08,2025
*im op
Yes i've dated women and had feelings for women jesus christ, obviously i don't just say im les. this is only the second guy ive dated since MIDDLE SCHOOL and i thought what i had for him was romantic feelings, but i'm confused if thats what i actually had. this whole post is me being confused on whether im bi or les not me lying about likin......
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25 08,2025
could be compulsory heterosexualty, could be bisexuality ! either way, you're queer and you're valid no matter what you want to identify as
finding yourself is hard, so don't be too hard on yourself op, if you find out you're bi ? then yay ! if you find out you weren't ? yay too ! it's hard enough as is to understand yourself so be kind to yourself......
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25 08,2025
idk sis;; sounds gay;;; perhaps homoflexible;;;;
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25 08,2025
omgg who cares just admit ur straight not les and get on w ur life
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25 08,2025
You can't consider yourself a lesbian when you've dated guys before or even now thats just a stupid thing to say yknow..
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25 08,2025
This is why i just say im bisexual, its so much easier to not owe anyone an explanation/update on my sexuality that shit is so complicated
anyways physical acts can always feel good without it meaning ur actually romantically/sexually attracted to someone, it sounds like u might have comphet, or u could be bi with a strong pref for women
Only u can......
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25 08,2025
