am i a stupid idiot?

basically i've been talking to this guy for like 2 months now and we hadn't really talked about what we are but i assumed we were exclusive and last night he randomly asks me how i would feel if he was talking to other people and i said "oh i'd be a little pissed" and i asked him how he would feel if i was talking to other people and he said "i sort of assumed you were and yeah i wouldn't be pissed"
i'm kind of miffed at him because of this statement...DID HE ASSUME I'M SOME SORT OF WHORE??? I DON'T KNOW WHY IM THIS PISSED
maybe i'm just an idiot idkkkk
and if he assumed i was talking to other people, he must also be talking to others right ughhhh idk how to feel about this anymore and i'm too much of a pussy to ask him if he IS talking to others sighhhhhhhh

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Mioro 01 09,2025

Listen unless theres a clear conversation abt exclusivity than youre not exclusive That being said, he asked knowing exactly how you felt towards him and was trying to be light hearted abt it while switching it up on you with "well i kinda thought you were". This wasnt him calling you a whore, this was him letting you know he doesn't see you as a ...... reply

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table salt 01 09,2025

Ahh, I get your stress, but when it comes to situationship stuff, you always have to communicate your boundaries because there isn't a proper "relationship title" to define it for you. You have to just straight up ask him if he's talking with other people, and tell him that you aren't talking with anyone else. Also tell him that you want to be excl...... 1 reply

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LeRain 01 09,2025

You’re not dating, why do you expect to be exclusive? If you won’t say that you want to date, then it’s common sense to keep talking with several people. You seem pretty young? Don’t be blinded by your feelings, 99% of guys just want to get in your pants. reply

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Miss Peach 01 09,2025

Wait, if he doesn't think you're like exclusive or atleast know you think that. Why would he ask how you felt??? I might be a little stupid but I don't get why you would ask someone who you don't see as a romantic partner if theyd be okay with you talking to someone else. 1 reply

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lorelei 01 09,2025

girl there aint nothing wrong with asking, you need to communicate if u want this guy but personally i suggest dont do sutuationships or talking stage stuff cuz the trauma is usually there and it'll warp your idea of a romantic relationship like yk how u play mind games and do bare minimum stuff in situationships? you'll also start thinking oh mayb...... 2 reply

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____ 01 09,2025

I'm mean y'all are talking and not yet dating, especially not even exclusively dating(boyfriend, girlfriend, etc) wdym? 1 reply

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Serendipity 01 09,2025

There's a movie about this, it's called "he's just not that into you". If he was really interested in you wouldn't bring the "talking with other people" conversation up. Probably saw you were getting too intense and he had to make it clear, he's talking to others and testing his choices, he didn't want you to put all your eggs on the same basket. N...... 1 reply

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_rugmuncher 01 09,2025

Why would you just assume you guys were exclusive you should never "assume" anything in a relationship communication yall 1 reply

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Sleeps In Sunbeams 01 09,2025

100% guaranteed he is talking to others. You can talk to him about it if you want, but he’s already telling you that he’s not that into you, not in any special exclusive way, and is actively seeking others. I don’t think he necessarily assumed that you’re a whore, why would he think that? But he likely clued in that you want more than he wa...... reply

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Hyleking Bearer Neithekaos 01 09,2025

I think you fucked up when you assumed instead of asking questions. Never assume shit especially when talking to someone you might be interested in. reply

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